{"id":3267,"date":"2011-01-03T22:30:58","date_gmt":"2011-01-03T22:30:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.womantalk.org\/?p=3267"},"modified":"2011-01-04T05:30:16","modified_gmt":"2011-01-04T05:30:16","slug":"2011-goals-the-first-three-months","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.womantalk.org\/?p=3267","title":{"rendered":"2011 Goals &#8211; The first three months"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>\n<p>Hey, not bad! I&#8217;m sitting and writing down my goals on January 3. Despite the fact that I painted my toenails (with Bella&#8217;s new OPI color Extra-va-vaganza) with my first five minutes to myself of the new year (Husband -&gt; work; Bella -&gt; school; Baby -&gt; napping). Last year, I didn&#8217;t get to my goals until February 10.<\/p>\n<p>If you were reading me <a href=\"http:\/\/www.womantalk.org\/?p=2555\" target=\"_self\">last year<\/a>, \u00c2\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.womantalk.org\/?p=1440\" target=\"_blank\"> two years ago<\/a>, or <a href=\"http:\/\/www.womantalk.org\/?p=947\" target=\"_blank\">three years ago<\/a>, you may remember that I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve given up standard new year\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s resolutions for goal setting three times a year, but that I&#8217;ve only ACTUALLY written goals in January for the last three years. My, how time flies.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve just added April 1 and August 1 as reoccurring annual goal-reviewing and goal-setting events to my iCalendar. We&#8217;ll see if that changes anything at all.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Personal<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>1.\u00c2\u00a0 <strong>My first goal is to continue to implement a weekly routine.<\/strong> I am more apt to get something done if I have a specific focus for the day and I found that Christian and I both really benefited from a weekly rhythm. I also discovered that if I allowed myself not to worry, say about dusting, for the week, I planned a dusting &#8220;event&#8221; for dusting day. That meant that windowsills got dusted! So did the ceiling fan! In fact more got dusted than ever before. Ditto for the mending &#8211; instead of an enormous pile of forgotten items in my closet &#8211; I had at least one piece of repaired clothing a week! To be clear, on dusting day, I only gave myself a dusting goal of 20 minutes, which was easy to accomplish. Setting the timer does wonders for making a project seem less daunting.<\/p>\n<p>Since I&#8217;ve found that my own goals don&#8217;t always match my goals for Christian, I&#8217;m adding another to some of the days. Hope that doesn&#8217;t capsize the whole plan.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Monday<\/strong> &#8211; Baking; Art (Watercolor painting\/Drawing with beeswax crayons)<\/p>\n<p><strong>Tuesday<\/strong> \u00e2\u20ac\u201c Yoga; Clay\/Playdough<\/p>\n<p><strong>Wednesday<\/strong> -Dusting; Wiping off place mats<\/p>\n<p><strong>Thursday<\/strong> \u00e2\u20ac\u201c Running; Clear desk<\/p>\n<p><strong>Friday<\/strong> \u00e2\u20ac\u201c Mending; Toy repair and polishing<\/p>\n<p>2. I accomplished last year&#8217;s goal of getting rid of 50 books. And put another 50 in boxes in the garage. I&#8217;m still constantly working on clutter, but right now, money&#8217;s more on my mind than clutter. I&#8217;d like to open an IRA account ($3000 minimum), while also contributing $100 a month to Christian&#8217;s 529 college fund (both through Vanguard). Eeps! That&#8217;s $350 a month. So, micro-steps: <strong>First I need to grocery shop within my $100\/week budget, which means menu planning.<\/strong> My goal is to plan a weekly menu every weekend for the following week. This shouldn&#8217;t be too hard, as I&#8217;ve been working towards this already (Monday-Soup and Bread; Tuesday-Chicken; Wednesday-Beans; Thursday-Wild Card; Friday-Fish)<\/p>\n<p><strong>Business<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>4. I&#8217;ve written <a href=\"http:\/\/www.artscenecal.com\/articles\/592-margie-livingston\" target=\"_blank\">longer published art pieces now<\/a> (500-700 words). And I have contacted (without much success) other art publications. I&#8217;ve also now <a href=\"http:\/\/www.blurb.com\/bookstore\/detail\/1775469\" target=\"_blank\">edited a small photography book<\/a> and begun trading editing\/writing work with a local non-profit organization. I&#8217;m pleased with the work I&#8217;ve done, but still <strong>my goal is still to write a piece for another art publication, like Art in America, Artforum, or Artillery<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>4. I moved womantalk.org to its own home this year. Woo-hoo! Now the rebuilding and renovating begins. <strong>My goal here is to create a tutorial page of all the crafts and projects that have accumulated over the years.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Health<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>5. Hmmm, Last year, I&#8217;d written that I wanted to be less critical of my husband and daughter. I&#8217;m still working on that, and I&#8217;d like to introduce a more concrete way of being positive using an idea I got from my budding therapist friend Nathen: I&#8217;m going to use the 5:1 ratio. <strong>Every time I hear myself being critical or yelling, I&#8217;m going to be sure that my next five interactions with that person are positive.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>6. And while last year I was down to 110 pounds, this year find me nearly 20 pounds heavier, and unable to fit into most of my jeans. Arghhh. And considering that I&#8217;m trying to save money, eating less seems more of an option than buying new clothes. Back to counting points in a competitive system with my husband. <strong>My goal is to be at 115 pounds by April 1.<\/strong> Losing one pound a week sounds reasonable.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hey, not bad! I&#8217;m sitting and writing down my goals on January 3. 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