I got this email from Mxxxxx yesterday, and I wondered if it was some kind of sophisticated prank:<\/p>\n
Dear Jeannie,<\/em><\/p>\n Hi there.\u00c2\u00a0 My name is Mxxxxxx and I stumbled upon your blog (googled “how to talk to women”) and I thought you might be a good person to turn to for advice, so here goes.\u00c2\u00a0 I met a very intelligent and attractive woman at an art gallery opening a few weeks ago.\u00c2\u00a0 She was a high school teacher in her early 30’s (I’m 28, so a little older than me).\u00c2\u00a0 We had been talking for about a half hour and really developed a great rapport.\u00c2\u00a0 We had even made tentative plans to meet for coffee sometime. \u00c2\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n Then, things suddenly went downhill. There was a pause in the conversation and since she had classic curves (large bust, narrow waist, etc.), I commented that she had a \u00e2\u20ac\u0153really nice, hourglass figure\u00e2\u20ac\u009d.\u00c2\u00a0 My intent was to be complimentary and a little flirtatious but instead she became deeply offended that I was talking about her figure.\u00c2\u00a0 I went into damage control mode and tried to clarify my comments but the more I talked, the more I exacerbated things as she rolled her eyes and shook her head.\u00c2\u00a0 She told me I was being “inappropriate” and that she was “very disappointed” and then WHAP!, she slapped my face and departed.<\/em><\/p>\n As I stood there alone rubbing my cheek, I was trying to figure out why she was so upset.\u00c2\u00a0 Do you have any thoughts?\u00c2\u00a0 Do you think I should email her an apology note? \u00c2\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n Mxxxxxx<\/em><\/p>\n I was still considering answering his email, when I got a second email today, which to my mind, verified his existence:<\/p>\n Well, curiosity got the best of me and I sent her an apology note earlier today.\u00c2\u00a0 Surprisingly, she got back to me and her response is below if you’re interested. \u00c2\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n Hello Mxxxxxx and thank you for the apology.\u00c2\u00a0 If you’re not yet aware, it is very inappropriate and highly offensive to size up a woman the first time you meet her.\u00c2\u00a0 It’s unfortunate that you chose to do this, since we had a nice conversation up to that point.\u00c2\u00a0 I’m passionate about being a teacher and like to be appreciated for who I am, what I do, and not how well I can fill out a bra.\u00c2\u00a0 Your words, along with your tone and demeanor made me feel very uncomfortable and objectified — hence the slap across the face. \u00c2\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n With all of that said, I hold no lingering hard feelings.\u00c2\u00a0 At least you showed some good manners by apologizing and knew that it was proper etiquette to turn the other cheek when a female slaps you.\u00c2\u00a0 Hopefully you can learn from this experience and have better luck in the future.\u00c2\u00a0\u00c2\u00a0\u00c2\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n I replied<\/p>\n Hello Mxxxxx,<\/em> He wrote back instantly (even though he still uses an archaic hotmail address):<\/p>\n Jeannie, thanks for getting back to me!\u00c2\u00a0 Yes, feel free to post the story on your site.\u00c2\u00a0 \u00c2\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n Lesson well learned, save the body compliments until later.\u00c2\u00a0 I guess I just thought we had a great comfort level.\u00c2\u00a0 In any case, I struck out with the ladies on all counts that night.\u00c2\u00a0 A few minutes later the owner of the gallery, a woman in her 40’s suggested that it would be best if I left.\u00c2\u00a0 Being a guy is not easy – not only did I get slapped but then tossed out on the street, lol.\u00c2\u00a0\u00c2\u00a0\u00c2\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n I can’t tell if the dude is a jerk or not. What do you think?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I got this email from Mxxxxx yesterday, and I wondered if it was some kind of sophisticated prank: Dear Jeannie, Hi there.\u00c2\u00a0 My name is Mxxxxxx and I stumbled upon your blog (googled “how to talk to women”) and I … Continue reading
\nThanks for the update. I am interested.<\/em>
\nIn my opinion, it is not appropriate to comment on a woman’s body until she is happily naked with you in bed. Then, feel free to go crazy telling her how much you love her body.<\/em>
\nMay I post this email exchange at womantalk? Without your real names, I mean. It is always fascinating to me how differently men and women perceive these issues!<\/em>
\nBest,<\/em>
\nJeannie<\/em>
\nwww.womantalk.org<\/em><\/p>\n