Two Mentions of Addis Ababa in One Week

I’ve been gone. I’ve been living in Addis Ababa for the last couple of weeks. I’ve just finished reading Abraham Verghese’s Cutting for Stone, and truly, I wish it weren’t over. Although now, my life seems ridiculously plentiful and straightforward in comparison.

When I began, I have to admit I sighed a little, seeing that it was going to be another epic novel chronicling generations from the old country, right up to contemporary days in the U.S.A. like Middlesex (which was also a great read). And then I sighed again when I saw that I’d be reading through a political uprising in Ethiopia – I don’t have anything against Ethiopia – but I since I know next-to-nothing about that country, I knew I was going to have expend energy paying close attention to the text. But Dr. Verghese, who teaches medicine at Stanford, has supernaturally well balanced right and left lobes going for him. By that, I mean, Verghese’s prose goes from detailed specifics of a surgical maneuver to an infant’s poetic rhapsody upon discovering a breast and he manages to keep it all fascinating; Verghese is a brilliant and rich writer. Some books I read (Shanghai Girls by Lisa See), and I think, I could totally be a writer like that – other books, like this one – I finish and think, oh dear God, I could never be such a writer.

I am so enamored of this book that I am recommending it to both my parents as summer reading for our cruise in July. (My dad’s treating the family to a 10-day cruise up the Northeast coast and I’ve nominated myself as the official summer book guide: Mom – The Help by Kathryn Stockett; Dad – Cutting for Stone by Abraham Verghese; Sue – The Hunger Games Trilogy by Suzanne Collins; Joss -  Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides; Songbae – The Omnivore’s Dilemma by Michael Pollan)

I’ll let the text speak for itself. Marion and Shiva are identical conjoined twins, who are surgically separated at birth. This passage describes Marion in the arms of the housekeeper/nanny. I want to share a second excerpt, where Ghosh teaches another doctor how to perform a vasectomy, but we’ll see how long Christian naps.

I whimper on Almaz’s shoulder, perilously close to bubbling cauldrons.

Almaz puts down the stirring ladle and shifts me to her hip. Reaching into her blouse, grunting with effort, she fishes out her breast.

“Here it is,” she says, putting in my hands for safekeeping.

I am the recipient of many gifts, but this is the first one I remember. Each time it is given to me it is a surprise. When it is taken away, the slate is wiped clean. But here it is, warm and alive, eased out of its cloth bed, bestowed on me like a medal I don’t deserve. Almaz, who hardly speaks, resumes stirring, humming a tune. It is as if the breast no more belongs to her than does her ladle.

Shiva in the pram puts down his wooden truck, which saliva has digested to a soggy pulp. It is, unlike his anklet, separable from him if need be. In the presence of that magnificent one-eyed teat, Shiva lets the truck fall to the floor. Though I have possession of the breast, stroking it, palpating it, I am also his amanuensis.

A rapt Shiva spurs me on and sends silent instructions: Throw it to me. And when I cannot, he says, Open it and see what is inside. That, too, is impossible. I mold it, indent it, and watch it rebound.

Put it to your mouth, Shiva says because this it the first means by which he knows the world. I dismiss this idea as absurd.

The breast is everything Almaz is not: Laughing, vibrant, an outgoing member of our household.

When I try and lift it, to examine it, that teat dwarfs my hands and spills out between my fingers. I wish to confirm how all its surfaces sweep up to the summit, the dark pap through which it breathes and sees the world. The breast comes down to my knees. Or perhaps it comes down to Almaz’s knees. I can’t be sure. It quivers like jelly. Steam condenses on its surface, dulling its sheen. It carries the scent ot crushed ginger and cumin powder from Almaz’s fingers. Year later, when I first kiss a woman’s breast, I become ravenous.

A flash of light and a blast of crisp air announce Rosina’s return. I am back in her arms, removed from the breast which vanishes as mysteriously as it has appeared, swallowed by Almaz’s blouse.

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Favorite Movies of 2010

I’ve discovered that I can’t really put out last year’s movie list until I’ve seen most of the Oscar contenders, which often happens in January of the following year.

Notice that I’ve titled this post “Favorite Movies” not “Best Movies.” Long ago, I gave up trying to be a critic for everybody because I can only swallow so much violence – and less if the violence is directed at women and children (even though I did read all three of the Girl with a Dragon Tattoo books this year). Basically, I write about movies with my sister in mind. If I think she’ll enjoy it, I take note.

True Grit – Among the questions that I might ask to determine if you and I could be friends, one might be, “What do you think of the Coen brothers?” Tell me anything short of saying they are modern day sages, and I’d have to take a pass on investing in our relationship. It is a serious film, but in such an odd sincere way, that it’s like reading a Haruki Murakami novel: pleasurable and puzzling. Jeff Bridges was perfect (and nearly incomprehensible) as the gruff U.S. Marshall Cogburn and Hailee Steinfeld is sure to become big news.

Toy Story 3 – I don’t have to be embarrassed about gushing over an animated film when even Quentin Tarantino made it his #1 favorite film of the year. Anyway, everybody loved it – it even got an 8.7/10.o rating at IMDb. Besides having a brilliant storyline (hard choices about what’s “right” and what’s “loyal”), lovable voice acting (Tom Hanks, Tim Allen, Joan Cusak…), this film is also filled with hilarious comedic moments that made me laugh until I cried. I thought it was great when Woody placed a square of toilet paper on the toilet seat before using it to climb out of the bathroom. I look forward to watching this with Christian some day.

Animal Kingdom – This film was this year’s Frozen River, which made my top ten back in 2008. By that I mean, it was a surprisingly good, low budget, gritty look at a hard luck guy in bad circumstances (he falls in with his cousins who happen to be professional bank robbers). There’s not a lot of conversation, but the emotional drama is incredibly high. It’s an Australian flick with lots of tough Australian dudes elbowing to be in control. The eldest brother is one of the creepiest characters I’ve ever watched, and the mother of all the boys (Jacki Weaver) surely deserves that supporting actress Oscar.

Babies is a darling documentary which chronicles the first year of a baby in each of the following cultures: Japan, Mongolia, Africa, and North America. At first, I was fascinated by the contrasts baby-rearing styles, but by the end, I sat back and enjoyed the cute fest – babies are adorable and funny where EVER they are. Plus this movie was totally “G” and so we played it while Christian was in the room. It was his first movie night with Mom and Dad.

Inception – From the director/writer who brought us Memento (and the latest Batman movies) comes another psychological twister. He’s proven himself enough to command an all-star cast, including DiCaprio and Leavitt, and you buy into the whole she-bang. How brilliant is it to make a chase film through FOUR levels of your mind?

127 Hours – I became a Danny Boyle devotee after watching Trainspotting. There are scenes in that movie that I can communicate to my sister with the slightest of gestures, because we’ve already laughed over them a hundred times. And now after Slumdog Millionaire, I imagine there are lots of Boyle fans world around. This film is based on the true story of a guy whose arm is trapped by a boulder for 127 hours, until he is finally able to amputate it himself with a cheap and blunt pocketknife from China. I knew this before I watched the film and it did not diminish my watching in any way and the final cutting is not overly dramatized. James Franco puts out a heartfelt performance and helps lift the story from gruesome to uplifting and inspiring. The Utah backdrop is gorgeous of course.

Black Swan – Despite the fact that this intense psychological thriller kept me from breathing properly for days, it made my list because Natalie Portman’s acting was spectacular. She trained for a year to be as convincing as she is on stage – there is plenty of dancing and stage glam, but make no mistake, this is a dark, dark story at the brink of insanity.

The Social Network – Chad considers Fincher to be the best director working today, and he does have a a few good ones under his belt already. The Fight Club is an indisputable cult classic and as sick as Seven was (as in the seven deadly sins), it’s memorable too. I never imagined that the ascent of a computer geek could be so gripping – but it is.

The King’s Speech – I had no idea that this was going to be about a speech impediment. I’m not kidding either, this entire movie is about the king’s  stammer! I’ve had a soft spot for Firth since Mr. Darcy (who hasn’t?), and then he really knocked my socks off with his performance in last year’s A Single Man, which would have made my top ten had I ever gotten around to writing it; so I’m not surprised to hear that he is the best bet for this year’s best actor Oscar. It is well-deserved.

Short List

The Fighter – Christian Bale puts out a tremendous performance in this one, but I just find it too depressing anymore to be entertained by people screwing up their lives and losing children to bad choices.

The Rabbit Hole – You’ll need a box of tissues for this one as it deals with life after losing a child. Painful, but good. Nicole Kidman is very believable.

Love and Other Drugs – A good sexy romp. A Love Story for the new millennium – you know, heart-wrenching love story laced with lots of prescription drug references. The back story is the advent of Viagra drug sales. Based loosely on a memoir written by a drug sales rep.

The Kids Are All Right – Almost too canned, but the acting saves it. And not as predictable as you think it might be. Annette Benning and Julianne Moore make a hot couple – love how Moore tries to explain why two women might watch gay male porn to get off.

Hot Tub Time Machine – If you grew up skiing in neon in the eighties, this is a must-watch for you. Do kids these days even know what a walkman is? Have I seen every movie that John Cusak has ever been in?

P.S. Here’s Chad’s Top Ten Films of 2010

  1. Inception
  2. The Town
  3. Black Swan
  4. Animal Kingdom – Australian
  5. The Social Network
  6. The Chaser (2008) – Korean
  7. I Saw The Devil – Korean
  8. The Fighter
  9. 127 Hours
  10. True Grit
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Babies, Blankets, and Wedding Bliss

I love me a big challenge of a craft project, and suddenly these gorgeous big blanket (and carpet!) projects are flying at me from all over the web. I’ve tweeted a bit about them, but wanted the excuse to post pics (and links) to these lovelies to share and for my own personal reference. Part of the fascination with these projects has to do with the color combinations, and another part has to do with the luscious wool yarn used.
I first started thinking about blankets when I saw these baby blanket packages at the purl bee. (That’s the craft blog of a fantastic fabric and yarn shop in NYC, which happens to have a warehouse outpost in Irvine. The blog has great free patterns, but don’t go to the warehouse unless you have lots of money to burn.) The colors are awesome – but the kit which contains 7 skeins of yarn costs $120 – and I didn’t win the blog drawing.

And then at the blog, Smoking Hot Needles, I stumbled upon a blanket that was nothing but a granny square grown completely out of control and enormous (for a granny square, that is). Apparently there was some kind of internet craze that I missed about making these blankets. This blanket is crocheted and I want to make one. It would be a great project to use up bits and bobs – although unlike the classic granny square afghan which is completed in small sections and crocheted together (and therefore extremely portable) this is one project that could only be worked on at home. Although, that said, we have a rainbow afghan that was knit entirely while my friend was minding the detention room at lunchtime…

And when I tweeted about that giant granny square, my friend Reanna threw me a link to this blanket that had been knit like it was quilted. The blanket-maker (her blog is Completely Cauchy) calls it Syncopation.

Again, theoretically it would be great with left-overs, but Syncopation (like the giant granny square) was knit with  SEVENTEEN skeins of yarn from the same maker; thus, there is a very satisfying tone match throughout. That, my friends, would cost over $200 in wool yarn. But I when I checked out the Shelter yarn, I saw the problem: I wanted every color! And there are seventeen.

With names like Long Johns, Wool Socks, Sap, Hayloft, Embers, Tent, Almanac, Button Jar, Faded Quilt, Homemade Jam, Thistle, Fossil, Sweatshirt, Soot, Woodsmoke, Nest, and Pumpernickel. Whew. Talk about comfort naming.

Here is the beautiful braided rug that Jaimie pointed out to me from the Sew Liberated blog. Although again, I wince slightly at the use of brand new “t-shirt yarn” for this traditional craft that was intended for recycling old clothing. If I made one, I think I’d like to use old jeans. I think all the shades of indigo would be awesome, and we all know how jeans wear like iron. This braided rug though, IS gorgeous. If I had extra cash, I’d probably just break down and buy new t-shirt yarn myself.

I HAVE made a large blanket before, and I’m quite proud of it too, but have no idea where I’d find a picture of it to show you. It’s from this Leisure Arts pattern and it’s 63 different crocheted squares. Crocheting that queen-size blanket was like a college-level crochet course at home, because you really really learn all the different crochet techniques. I did it for my sister’s wedding gift. These big projects are good for special occasions. I used three shades of green and brown (I was thinking “tree”) in merino wool. At the time, my sister and b-i-l were living in London and needed to keep warm. In Thailand, that blanket is just packed away and waiting – probably the bugs there don’t even know what to do with wool!

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Cheryl Ann Thomas


Posed elegantly on plinths, the furled and sometimes collapsing ceramic “artifacts” and “relics,” as sculptor Cheryl Ann Thomas calls them, seem very distantly related to their ancestral forebear, the coiled clay pot. Indeed, the swaths of charcoal gray and creamy coiled clay resemble more a crushed brim of a straw hat or ribbons of snake skin than anything porcelain at all. These sculptures do not function as vessels, but rather seek and explore the edge of what hand-wrought clay can achieve, often reaching mind-boggling heights and stunning delicate balances. The monochrome palette draws attention to the delicate texture of the surfaces and to the repetitive print of the artist’s fingers. Thomas begins each work with long thin rolled ropes of clay coiled and coiled to build forms, and then often uses several forms in one work. She has just begun to investigate making similar works in stainless steel and bronze, which seems an appropriate direction for these noble ruins (Frank Lloyd Gallery, Bergamot Station).

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Feeding the Family on Fish Night


The Orange-Tarragon Trout with Smoky Green Beans (from America’s Kitchen’s 30-Minute Suppers, Fall 2010) was an absolute hit at my house last night. I swear, you’d think I never cooked anything, the way everybody wolfed dinner down.

And ironically, I’d procrastinated my way through two bags of almonds and my first pound of green beans were fed to the worms before I could bring myself to tackle this very simple recipe. Maybe I was intimidated by the fresh tarragon? I had no idea that fresh tarragon tasted a bit like licorice…In any case, I still made lots of substitutions – see for yourself.

Orange-Tarragon Trout with Smoky Green Beans

1. Make tarragon butter: Mix 6 T butter, 1/4 c minced tarragon, and the zest of an orange. (I used the zest and juice of one lemon instead.)
2. Nuke a pound of trimmed and cleaned green beans with a 1/2 c of water for 5 minutes or until bright and green. Drain.
3. Mix green beans with 1/4 chopped smoked almonds and 1 T tarragon butter. (I used the “spicy and tangy” almonds from trader joe’s.)
4. Pan fry the fish fillets: I used a pack of frozen roughy from Trader Joe’s. Pat dry. Dredge in flour. Fry in oil/butter. Drizzle tarragon butter on top.
5. Serve with rice.

Look, mine looked liked the picture in the magazine!

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Weekly Menu Planning

My food thing at the moment may seem overly controlled, but I am surprised to report that weekly menu planning not only frees me up (mentally!), but is also proving to be cost-effective. I really, really love not having that every day  oh-geez-look-at-the-time-what-can-I-throw-together-for-dinner panic.

In a nutshell, I jumped on board with a Real Simple magazine article that provided a month’s worth of 30-minute dinners. (I couldn’t find a link to the exact article, but many of the same recipes are featured here at the month of 400-calorie meals article.)

From there, I began instituting a weekly menu planning session with Bella (and a tiny bit with Chad) early on in the week. It’s critical to get the whole week planned out in advance, so that I can have my shopping list ready to go BEFORE I go shopping. Sounds obvious, but since grocery shopping for the upcoming week can start by Thursday (we hit Trader Joe’s, Ralph’s, and the farmers’ market once a week; and Costco every second week) I need to start menu planning by Monday so that it’s done by Wednesday.

This is my sophisticated process: I scribble the days of the week on the back of an envelope. We all fill in the menu at dinner over the course of a couple of nights. I write the ingredients I need on the front of the envelope and carry this list with me all week. Then the list gets plunked on the front of the fridge with a magnet. We follow these parameters:

Monday – Soup and bread

Tuesday – Chicken

Wednesday – Beans

Thursday – Wild Card (ha! usually we go “wild” by making grass-fed hamburgers…)

Friday – Fish

Right now, my favorite resources are the following:

30-Minute Suppers from Cook’s Illustrated (Fall 2010) – (btw, there is a free iphone app for Cook’s Illustrated that lets you access 100 of their best recipes) This issue has proved to be well-worth the $8 I spent buying it off the newstand at Costco. We’ve tried 7 of the 62 recipes and loved every one – in fact, we determined as a family that we should eventually try all 62 recipes.

“Dinner for a Month” Real Simple magazine article (Oct 2009)

and from the library…

The Best of America’s Test Kitchen 2009

The America’s Test Kitchen Healthy family Cookbook

This week’s menu looks like this:

Monday – Corn Chowder and homemade olive bread

Tuesday -  Quick Moroccan Chicken with Green Olives (p 6 of 30-Min Dinners)

Wednesday – Chili and Cornbread (actually, the chili recipe is from the current issue of Cook’s – but instead of buying the whole issue, I just skimmed the article and then took a picture of the ingredients…)

Thursday – Saag Paneer (don’t normally buy cow’s milk, but the recipe in the Best of…2009 looked so delicious)

Friday – Orange-Tarragon Trout with Smoky Green Beans (p. 39 in 30-Min Dinners)

The irony is that after months of following a weekly menu plan, the week I decide to post about it, my planning goes awry. (I think because we were in holiday mode for MLK, Jr.)

Last night we made nachos and guacamole – no bread, no soup.

Sunday night I made a delicious pad thai by using the recipe at the Loving Rice blog (I know the blogger from Bangkok).

And tonight, besides making last night’s soup, I going to make Linguini with Walnut-Sage Pesto – simply because a friend texted me the recipe and I happen to have all the ingredients on hand. I’m going to omit the cheese though, because we’re all being calorie-conscious here. We’ll have the Moroccan chicken next week.

Makes: 5 servings
Prep time: 15minutes
Cook Time: 11 minutes

1/3 cup walnuts
1 9-ounce package fresh linguine (6 ounce dried)
1 packed tablespoon fresh whole sage leaves
1 large garlic clove
1/2 teaspoon kosher salt
1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper plus additional to taste
2 Tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil
4 Tablespoons freshly grated Parmesan

1. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. Spread the walnuts on a rimmed baking sheet & toast until lightly golden & fragrant, about 8 minutes. Let cool.
2. Bring a large pot of water to boil. Cook the linguine according to package directions. Drain, reserving 1/2 cup cooking water.
3. Combine the parsley, sage, garlic, & salt, black pepper & walnuts in a blender; pulse until finely chopped. Drizzle in the olive oil & blend well. Add 3 Tablespoons of the parmesan; pulse quickly to combine.
4. Transfer the pesto to a serving bowl & add 1/3 cup cooking water. Add linguine & toss to combine, adding remaining pasta water as necessary. Top with remaining cheese & additional black pepper to taste.

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Letter to Christian at 2 years 7 months


Dear darling Christian,

While some people bemoaned the rainy weather that we’ve had, you, well, you completely reveled in the rain. Your dad was on vacation the whole month of December and we dragged him along on lots of puddle walks.

Because of your dad’s vacation time, we also got some good camping time in. Luckily, it all happened just before the rains poured down. In fact, the weather was absolutely stunning in Joshua Tree mid-December. We camped for two nights and were visited by many people who love you, including your gramma and grampy. We even made it out to Joshua Tree a second time to see blissfully engaged Nathen and Reanna while they were in town. That, plus my parents’ visit for a week, meant LOTS of family time this holiday season.

I really thought the construction vehicle and skateboard stage was going to last a lot longer. I was settling in for the long haul. But instead, you’ve moved over into that boy-thing of loving guns, swords, and light sabers. You love building and playing with the train set Santa brought you, but you love it even more when you take it apart and make every piece of train track A GUN, so you have a big huge stack of guns.

You have really developed a terrific relationship with your dad. It’s so sweet to see you guys loving on each other! You enjoy his company so much that I was even able to take an early childhood Waldorf workshop this weekend – four hours Friday night and seven hours on Saturday – you hardly noticed I was gone. Instead, you were thrilled that Bella was going to read and play with you until Dad came home from work.

I’m still thoroughly enjoying your language development and increasing understanding of the world. Today in the car, you suddenly demanded, “Where we going?” When I told you we were going to Ted’s Place for breakfast, you asked, “Does he have toys though?”

I said, “It’s a restaurant. I don’t think so.”

He continued, “Does he have toys though? Does he have Buzz Lightyear? I think so.”

I let the subject drop, but guess what? Ted’s Place DID have toys (via 50 cent gumball machines) and there WAS Buzz Lightyear. And it’s been months since we’ve been to that place!

You crack me me up dude!

I love you,

MamaP.S. On one of many bike adventures down to the creek bed to harvest mule fat wood for fire kits.

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Winter Circle Songs and Handplays

Here we go with another winter cycle of Playgroup in the Woods. (I’m resisting the temptation to continue calling it Waldorf in the Woods, because I’m not actually a trained Waldorf teacher.)

The story will be a simplified version of the Grimm’s fairy tale Star Money. (I can’t wait for next winter to do The Mitten! There was a sweet how-to article in the last Living Craft magazine for making the mitten out of felt and all the animals out of wood.)

The craft will be a felt birthday banner.

The winter cycle songs are as follows:

Follow, follow me
To the ring of the fairies
Follow, follow me,
Where the fairies dance and sing.

Gather with you now
All the magic you can carry,
As we circle ‘round the dancing fairy ring.

Now look around
We’ve made a ring
By holding hands you see.

Yes, here I am,
And there you are,
Together we are we.

1. Winter’s Mood by Betty Jones

All outside is dark and cold
But just beneath the earth
Sleep seeds from which new life springs
Bringing Nature’s gifts to birth.

2. Snowflakes
Oh- Where do you come from you little flakes of snow,
Oh- falling softly falling on the earth below.

On the trees and on the bushes
On the mountains so far
Oh- snowflakes do you come from where the angels are?

3. Finger Plays For Winter Fairies (by Mrs M of http://www.shiningstarschool.com/)

What do I see under the moonlight
Why it is winter fairies in the winter night..
How many are there? Let me count!
One (finger up) for the Frost Fairy freezing the dew
Two (fingers up) for the Wee Blue Fairy, oh so cute
Three (fingers up) for the Mossy Elf, wrapped in wool
Four (fingers up) for Snowflake who never gets cold
Five (fingers up) for Brother Wind who blows and blows (put five fingers up to face and blow thru….)

One fairy runs away, two fairies fly (one finger runs, other hand shows 2 fairies flying)

And all the others….say good bye! (wave hands then open and shut goodbye)

4. Wintertime by Betty Jones

Oh, hear the winds call             Raise hand to mouth and sound out “woo”
Listen to the nuts fall          Snap fingers
See the squirrel gather its food,
Flutter fingers and reach forward to gather
To bed goes the bear,           Lumber around the circle

All the creatures prepare         Stop, hold hands, and sit down
For the wintertime mood.         While holding hands, raise hands
Soft snow falls at night           Flutter fingers to floor
Covering the earth crystal-white
Spread fingers outward away from body
While all are snug in bed,         Sleeping gesture, eyes closed

But with the sunrise                Eyes closed, sweep arms upwards
Children open their eyes          Open eyes, fingertips meet above
To play in the snow instead!      Stand together, rub hands together
The air is so clear                       Stretch upwards, deep breath, exhale

Wrapped in warm winter gear,    Pretend to dress
Out to the snow we go!              Pretend to trudge in circle
Jack Frost bites the nose           Stop, and pinch nose
And soon freezes our toes!  Bend down, rub toes
Now starts this wintertime show!
Stand and turn around in place; extend arms outward from sides in gesture of gratitude.

5. Two Little Hands (Do all the actions in the verse)
Two little hands go clap, clap, clap.
Two little feet go tap, tap, tap.
Two little hands go thump, thump, thump.
Two little feet go jump, jump, jump.
One little body turns round and round.
One little body sits quietly down.

6. Dot, dot, dot

And a big question mark.

Little spiders crawl up your back

Little spiders crawl down your back

Little spiders crawl up your arms

Little spiders crawl down your arms

Cool breeze, tight squeeze.

Egg on the head and the yolk drips down.

Creepy crawlies, creepy crawlies…

Gotcha.

The Story Song

Anything can happen

In a fairy tale or rhyme

When you say the magic words

Once a upon a time

Handwashing Song (sung in the mood of the 5th)

Time to wash our hands,

Time to wash our hands

Welcome, welcome

Welcome to our table

Welcome, welcome

We all join hands together. (We sing this until every one is at the table)

Snack Time Blessing

Earth who gives to us this food.

Sun who makes it ripe and good.

Sun above and earth below,

Our loving thanks to you we show.

Blessings on our meal.

Goodbye Circle

Who will come to my wee ring?

My wee ring

My wee ring

Who will come to my wee ring?

And make it a little bit bigger?

The earth stands firm beneath my feet. The sun shines high above. Here I stand, so straight and strong – all things to know and love

I can turn myself and turn myself and stop me when I will. I can reach high on my tippy toes and hold myself quite still.

The Goodbye Song (REVISED to reflect lyrics and tune from A Child’s Seasonal Treasury)

Goodbye now, good-bye now, we leave you now and home we go.

Good bye now, good bye now. Good bye to all of you.

It’s time to go or we’ll be late.

Let the children lead us to the gate.

Good bye now, good bye now, we’ll see you soon again.

Rainbow Bridge Song

Goodbye, goodbye

Blessing on your way.

May the sun shine bright

In your hearts today.

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Cash in Old Cell Phones

Radio Shack is currently hosting a pretty great cell phone trade-in program. Bring in all your old cell phones (sans cases, but WITH chargers for more cash) to your local Radio Shack and they will buy them off you and put the amount on a gift card.

For example, we went into Radio Shack yesterday to buy Bella her first brand-new iphone. We brought in six old cell phones with chargers: 2 RZRs, 1 samsung blackjack, 1 blackberry, and 1 1st gen iphone. We got $141.90 back. I kid you not. The iphone alone got $84 – and it had stopped working (although it turned out that the problem was a corroded sim card – still NEW 3g iphones are $59!)

So, my advice to you. Get searching through desk drawers and get yourself over to Radio Shack ASAP. No need to purchase anything.

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2011 Goals – The first three months

Hey, not bad! I’m sitting and writing down my goals on January 3. Despite the fact that I painted my toenails (with Bella’s new OPI color Extra-va-vaganza) with my first five minutes to myself of the new year (Husband -> work; Bella -> school; Baby -> napping). Last year, I didn’t get to my goals until February 10.

If you were reading me last year,   two years ago, or three years ago, you may remember that I’ve given up standard new year’s resolutions for goal setting three times a year, but that I’ve only ACTUALLY written goals in January for the last three years. My, how time flies.

I’ve just added April 1 and August 1 as reoccurring annual goal-reviewing and goal-setting events to my iCalendar. We’ll see if that changes anything at all.

Personal

1.  My first goal is to continue to implement a weekly routine. I am more apt to get something done if I have a specific focus for the day and I found that Christian and I both really benefited from a weekly rhythm. I also discovered that if I allowed myself not to worry, say about dusting, for the week, I planned a dusting “event” for dusting day. That meant that windowsills got dusted! So did the ceiling fan! In fact more got dusted than ever before. Ditto for the mending – instead of an enormous pile of forgotten items in my closet – I had at least one piece of repaired clothing a week! To be clear, on dusting day, I only gave myself a dusting goal of 20 minutes, which was easy to accomplish. Setting the timer does wonders for making a project seem less daunting.

Since I’ve found that my own goals don’t always match my goals for Christian, I’m adding another to some of the days. Hope that doesn’t capsize the whole plan.

Monday – Baking; Art (Watercolor painting/Drawing with beeswax crayons)

Tuesday – Yoga; Clay/Playdough

Wednesday -Dusting; Wiping off place mats

Thursday – Running; Clear desk

Friday – Mending; Toy repair and polishing

2. I accomplished last year’s goal of getting rid of 50 books. And put another 50 in boxes in the garage. I’m still constantly working on clutter, but right now, money’s more on my mind than clutter. I’d like to open an IRA account ($3000 minimum), while also contributing $100 a month to Christian’s 529 college fund (both through Vanguard). Eeps! That’s $350 a month. So, micro-steps: First I need to grocery shop within my $100/week budget, which means menu planning. My goal is to plan a weekly menu every weekend for the following week. This shouldn’t be too hard, as I’ve been working towards this already (Monday-Soup and Bread; Tuesday-Chicken; Wednesday-Beans; Thursday-Wild Card; Friday-Fish)

Business

4. I’ve written longer published art pieces now (500-700 words). And I have contacted (without much success) other art publications. I’ve also now edited a small photography book and begun trading editing/writing work with a local non-profit organization. I’m pleased with the work I’ve done, but still my goal is still to write a piece for another art publication, like Art in America, Artforum, or Artillery.

4. I moved womantalk.org to its own home this year. Woo-hoo! Now the rebuilding and renovating begins. My goal here is to create a tutorial page of all the crafts and projects that have accumulated over the years.

Health

5. Hmmm, Last year, I’d written that I wanted to be less critical of my husband and daughter. I’m still working on that, and I’d like to introduce a more concrete way of being positive using an idea I got from my budding therapist friend Nathen: I’m going to use the 5:1 ratio. Every time I hear myself being critical or yelling, I’m going to be sure that my next five interactions with that person are positive.

6. And while last year I was down to 110 pounds, this year find me nearly 20 pounds heavier, and unable to fit into most of my jeans. Arghhh. And considering that I’m trying to save money, eating less seems more of an option than buying new clothes. Back to counting points in a competitive system with my husband. My goal is to be at 115 pounds by April 1. Losing one pound a week sounds reasonable.

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