Happy Birthday to ME

Gray, but still blowing bubbles.


Despite all the clucking that’s gone down on around me about the lack of celebrating my birthday – I really had a good one.
Because, you know what?
This ENTIRE TRIP is like a birthday present.
My brother frequently makes me coffee and breakfast in the morning and has watched Christian so I could sneak out for a Thai massage (and has offered to do it anytime). My sister and brother-in-law won’t let me pay for anything and keep the excellent food rolling. The maid presses and hangs my clean clothes BACK IN MY CLOSET daily and cleans my bathroom and bedroom four times a week. Christian and his cousin Noi naa play super sweetly together (most of the time – you know, when they’re not fighting…) Friends I’ve just made are bringing me lovely gifts (I LOVE THE HAT, EKUA!) And heck, my husband financed the trip and now my teenage daughter wants to skype and talk with me every day. Did I mention that said daughter is 16 and usually barely wants to give me the time of day when I’m home?
Best of all, I’m getting to hold my newborn little Leela niece whenever I want, and breathe in big gulpfuls of her heady baby perfume. She smells so sweet it’s incredible.
I’m having a grand old time.
The protests are already old news (tonight’s curfew is midnight – wait, does that mean Songbae’s not coming home tonight?? It’s midnight already!) and we’ve started dipping back into routines like going to playdates, swimming in the morning, and strolling to the park in the evenings.
This evening when I snapped at my sister, I noticed that I wasn’t really even irritated – just keeping up appearances out of bad habit. Because I feel mellow. Hot and sticky, but generally mellow.
And I’m getting a heck of a lot of crafting and reading done.
Turning 42 is okay by me.
Thanks for all the sweet birthday wishes and facebook shouts!

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Happy Birthday Little Dude!

Christian had a great second birthday, unfinished birthday crown and unfinished birthday banner notwithstanding.
Here’s a vid to tide you over until I can write a proper birthday letter.
Been busy holding the newborn Leela!
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2010-5-21, 21-21

Penelope "Leela" Dimock


If it hadn’t been for the curfew, the baby would have been born in the back seat of a truck cab.
We arrived at the hospital at 8:59 pm (one minute to spare) and the sweetest little girl rushed out of Sue at 9:21 pm.
It’s hard to fathom that we were considering staying at home because we thought Sue would make it to the 5 am curfew break.
But consider this:
Sue woke up to gentle contractions every hour or so Friday morning.
We went ahead with our pool playdate and had a family of four over from 10:30 am to 1:30 pm. Sue said that the contractions had backed off. Another friend dropped by to offer support, play with Noi naa, and to meet our brother who’s in town from Kyrgizstan. Then Songbae’s German friend from Bishtek came by also. Joss, Noi naa, Christian, and I headed to the park.
When we got back from the park to eat pasta and pizza, Sue had her feet up in front of the TV, and she and Ekua were hooting it up watching The Hangover. Sue said her contractions had come back – but were still at least 1/2 hour apart.
By 8pm, we were all chewing over the big decision: go to the hospital now before the 9 pm curfew? stay home and then call an ambulance? try and wait until 5 am? Her contractions were ten minutes apart and still (apparently) manageable.
After a brief cell phone conversation with the doctor, we decided to head in and starting milling around the apartment the way a mass of people do when they’re headed out for an indefinite amount of time: “Have you fed the cat?!” “Who’s got the toys and snacks?!” “Should we bring a stroller?!” “Hurry! It’s almost 8:30 – the curfew!!”
Then there was a frozen moment. The door to the kitchen swung open and shut, and briefly I saw Sue in the kitchen. Her back was to me, her legs were open, and she was looking at the ground. I knew right away, even before I heard her yelling “JOOOOO-OOOOOSS!!!!!!!!” that her water had broken.
Then, everything sped up: kids were swooped up, doors flung open, and bags grabbed and hooked on every arm and finger.
We packed everything into the truck that work had insisted Sue take home – packing around Noi naa’s bicycle – and started driving. Never mind that nobody in the car had ever driven to this hospital before.
But here, the looming 9 pm curfew worked very much in our favor: besides the military vehicles and fatigue-clad teenagers with machine guns, the roads were pretty clear and we made it to the hospital (Bumrungrad, a fancy private hospital) in record time.
We handed the keys over to a valet attendant. Joss went straight through with Sue in a wheelchair. Songbae and I followed with Noi naa, Christian, the stroller, and what looked like a week’s worth of luggage for a family of five.
When we arrived in the delivery ward, we could hear Sue’s rebel yells echoing through the halls. Noi naa was cowed, and with her face buried in Songbae’s neck she kept repeating, “If I’m scared I’m going to go out with Songbae.” Christian was tired and dazed and looking around.
The doctor came strolling in, in his jeans and sandals, and a backpack slung over his shoulder. He waved briefly, and disappeared into the locker room. He reappeared in scrubs and went to see Sue.
After just a few minutes, Joss rushed out – “Jeannie! Want to come in and coach Sue a bit?!?”
Sue still hadn’t made it into the natural delivery room and was on a gurney in the fetal monitoring room. The doctor was flushed and I don’t even know if Sue registered that I was there. The doctor very clearly wanted Sue to lean back on the pillows and said she was close to pushing.
Sue said in a gasp, “I KNOW! BUT…. I CAN’T MOVE FROM THIS POSITION!!!” or something to that effect.
She was sitting up, leaning against the wall in the middle of the gurney bed.
I said, “Okay, just throw your arm around my neck…”
and BOOM – her arm wrapped around my neck in a very intense nelson lock and Sue was up on her knees and one hand. I was bent double, holding her up.
She yelled, “I CAN FEEL THE HEAD!!”
I yelled, “JOSS! COME BACK!!!!”
and then I looked and there was the beautiful Leela sprawled out on the bed behind Sue.
A GIRL!!!!
Despite our best efforts, we all missed the baby’s actual entrance. No matter…
At that moment, Joss ran up with Christian, Songbae ran up with Noi naa, and everybody was cheering, gasping, and yelling various exclamations of disbelief. This was 9:21.
The baby was born completely naturally, even though we never made it to the “natural” delivery room.
The doctor, though, was stoked – he would have to stay at the hospital all night because of the curfew and he was the lucky bastard who got to watch cable all night in a very clean, unused natural delivery room – the only one at the hospital! He said there were doctors stranded all over the hospital, fighting over rooms to sleep in.
Sue, Leela, Joss, Noi naa, Songbae, Christian, and I slowly made our way to Sue’s private deluxe hospital room. (The VIP rooms were booked). We made our respective beds on the sofa and floor, and by midnight we were more or less asleep.
It was a very exciting arrival – and we are grateful to have been a part of it!

A very pleased older sister.


P.S. If this puts you in the mood for more birth stories, here’s a link to Noi naa’s birth three years ago, and Christian’s birth two years ago: Part I, Part II, Part III, Part IV.
P.P.S. Leela at birth: 3040 grams and 50 centimeters long and cute as a button. Nursing like a champ.

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Worse Before Better

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While day-to-day life for us continues on rather normally, the situation peaked yesterday with the torching and looting of Central, the second largest mall in Asia.

The fire fighters were apparently prevented from entering the area and the entire huge mall burned to the ground creating a large column of black smoke from yesterday afternoon until well into this morning.

Joss has been taking timed photos from the balcony, which he made into two videos.
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There’s been more than one column of smoke in the city. The leaders of the red shirt movement have either turned themselves in or fled, leaving the 5,000+ protesters without leadership or direction. There were estimated 80 factions of protesters spreading through Bangkok – businesses associated with wealthy corrupt Thais were targeted for destruction and looting.

Consequently there was a curfew established last night for 8 pm. Sue and Joss were out in the company truck around 6 pm, registering at a nearby hospital in the event we cannot reach the hospital of their choice and picking up dinner. They said the streets were already deserted and most restaurants were closed.

The curfew has been extended through Saturday night from 9 pm to 5 am. The BTS has been closed for five days now.

Today, the street vendors, the shoe repair guy, the tailor, are still out on the streets, working normally. The fancy grocery store is open – crowded with folks stockpiling supplies.

We went to Noi naa’s playgroup this morning, just a block or two away and then did some shopping. The fruit lady cautioned us not to go anywhere as it’s still dangerous. The mood was relaxed and there were people everywhere – but maybe not as many as usual.

We take this to mean that the testosterone-pumped frustrated protesters are all still about, but that it’s mostly about clean up now. Businesses are being slammed and impacted in all ways. We stopped for a coffee, but couldn’t get sandwiches as no bread had been delivered today. The maid has shown up every day, but every other storefront on the street has its shutters drawn.

The Thai conflict for dummies (explained by somebody who barely understands what’s going on – that’s me):
The red shirts are mostly poor farmers from the NE – they support Taksin, the democratically-elected president who was overthrown two years ago for being terribly corrupt. They wanted the current government to step down and to move up the democratic elections. Bottomline – they want a better life and don’t feel their needs are represented in government.
The yellow shirts are mostly wealthy, educated city-folk. They organized the coup in 2008 to get rid of Taksin. Bottomline – they feel they gave the poor a chance at a democratic election and are disgusted that somebody as corrupt as Taksin was voted into power.

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My Niece, Minnie Mouse

Minne and her Mama, "Incredible"


This is Noi naa's "minnie" dress and she wears it EVERY SINGLE DAY. It only gets taken off to be washed.


Noi naa goes by Minnie. Her best friend TJ is Mickey and his mother is Alice. Sue is “crdible” for “incredible.” Can you tell that Noi naa been to see Disney on Ice?

The evenings are nice and we’re trying to get out at least for a stroll down the soi when the sun goes down. Last night we even made it to the park around the corner.

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my QUAT, MY QUAT, my QUAT

Every other day or so, I hear a strange incantation over a loudspeaker go down the soi. At first I thought it might be some kind of political promo, but it turns out that “myquat” means “broom” and it’s simply the broom man passing by.

The mobile myquat bicycle cart.


I’ve wanted to stop him and buy brooms for years.
Today he happened to be stopped and resting in front of Sue’s apartment building.
I bought two small brooms (I like the fan-style whisk) and one small feather duster. The feather duster is made of chicken feathers (!!) and he makes them himself in the evenings.
Each item was 55B, so about $1.50.
The other guy I’ve always wanted to stop is the cutting board man. But his slices of tree trunks might make for unreasonable packing.

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My First Week in BKK

My son as a fairy. (He's loving all his cousin's toys - these wings, though, were promptly taken away and hidden, since they are a prized possession.)


Overheard: "He's so cute. He's so cute. I LOVE him!"


Don't even get me started on the heat - that puppy is sleeping with his head on a bag of ICE!!


Strangely, the buildings going up, look like they are being torn down.


Sue's favorite fruit lady - she always gives up the latest street news and the freshest fruit (mankoot and rambutan pictured).


Girl: Molly? Boy: Owen? Luke? Thomas? Henry? (They've stopped taking my suggestions seriously, I'm afraid.)


and two picture vids, made by my bro-in-law:
[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eMsGx72Z2LM]
[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HPcZUSq3L5A]
See, we really are mostly staying at home and out of trouble.

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madebyjoel.com

I’m pretty sure I’m in love with this new blog.
He’s a stay-at-home dad/artist who posts simple toys he’s made for his kids.
Here’s two of his youtube videos so you can see what I mean.
But my FAVORITE thing so far is his modern dollhouse.

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ci6zAWO8euU&feature=player_embedded]
[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fiEa87O8wuY&feature=player_embedded]

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A Typical Sunday Morning

We all went out for a brief tiyao (walk) this morning to replenish our supply of fruits and vegetables.
The BTS (sky train, the Bkk version of a subway) has been closed for three days due to protesting by the yellow shirts.
We’ve all been advised to stay close to home – Sue will probably not go to work tomorrow, the loaned work vehicle not withstanding.
But still, life in this neighborhood goes on: the stalls are lined up selling fruit and roasted baby octopus and the ice cream man makes his way up every soi, hitting each construction site.
We hailed him (he was on foot), so that I could try what Sue calls an “old-fashioned” ice cream sandwich. The sandwich bit is taken quite literally, and my coconut ice cream (only one flavor) was served on a fresh baked roll!
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Miles and Miles of Shopping

I made it to Chattachuk market yesterday, a weekend market famous for having over three miles of wall-to-wall vendor stalls – not to mention the overflow stalls along the sidewalk, outside Chattachuk.

It’s just two BTS stations down from us, and away from any protests. I left Christian at home (he’s become very attached to Sue, Joss, and Noi naa – they took him for a quick bike ride, played “surfing” in the pool, and fed him lunch) and ventured out with a friend of Sue’s, who happens to go to Chattuchuk nearly every weekend. That would be me if I lived here. Despite the heat and crowds, I LOVE THIS PLACE.

The sheer massiveness and density of local commerce makes for a fascinating reflection of current Western trends and fashions. This time I noticed that flannel shirts (with the sleeves rolled up to the bicep) are a hot item, along with blue jean shorts.

I really appreciated experiencing Chattachuk from a local perspective. First, we went directly to her favorite fried chicken joint, Jeed-Jeer, to beat the lunch crowd. Fried chicken is misleading though, because most of the meal is raw! There is a about the amount of one fried chicken breast, chopped, and served on top of a grated green mango salad, with greens, all drenched in a tangy tart vinigrette. We had that with som tum, another grated salad, but papaya not mango, plus sticky rice, and a coke for each of us.

From there we wandered the stalls, while I did enough shopping of teak wood items to last me the month.

My loot from the day.

Which brought us to her favorite coconut ice cream vendor: each scoop of homemade coconut sorbet was served on grated coconut meat in the coconut shell half. You got two toppings (choice of a variety of sliced fruits or red bean and peanuts), all for 25B (about 75 cents). The sweetest thing about this vendor was that they’d created a jungle oasis for themselves, by planting orchids and other hanging bromeliads in an arch around the shop front. Everything was continuously misted, green and lush.

That gave us more energy for shopping.

We brought us finally to her favorite fresh orange juice vendor. We got three large bottles (50B each) each to bring home, and a little juice (15B) to drink on the spot. She likes this place, not only because the juice is always supersweet, but because they give you money back for returning the glass bottles.

Boy, it was hot. Besides the orange juice, I had had a coffee, a coke, and my 16-oz water, and still hadn’t needed to pee!

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