14+3+3=20 hours

My baby is a traveling champ! Even the guy sitting next to me from LA to Taipei (14 hours) said so.

We boarded the plane at LAX around 3 pm Saturday after gorging ourselves on Mexican food at the airport (nothing tastes even remotely like Mexican food in SE Asia…)

I was loaded down: all the bits and bobs that couldn’t fit in my 100 pounds of check-in luggage were in my rolling carry-on, Christian was on my back, my backpack was on my front, and I carried Christian’s doll, Sterling (I need Sterling, Mama! says he) and our tickets in my hands. Mental note: shear at least half of that for the return flight.

But, we had ample time to mosey about before boarding, and Christian was thrilled to pieces that we were getting on a REAL LIVE AIRPLANE. He was beside himself actually, and that made him pretty easy to load up. The whole first hour was relatively easy.

Then I checked the flight info and realized I still had thirteen hours to go.
Two more hours later, I’d gone through most of my snacks (goldfish, gum, and animal crackers) and most of my surprise treats (matchbox excavator, autoblox car, and mushy bounce ball with tentacles to pull) and Christian was showing no signs of slowing down. He was up, he was down, he was in the seat next to me, we went to the bathroom at least 6 times (he peed each time), and I was running out of stuff to do with him. I’d even resorted to letting him watch the screen of the kid in front of us who never seemed to tire of SpongeBob SquarePants.

ELEVEN MORE HOURS. My back already hurt! I was wondering if it had been a bad idea to plan a trip to Asia with a 2-year old by myself. Last year, I’d been with Bella and my brother, so I’d at least had somebody to mind the baby when I needed to pee myself.

Then I got smart and stopped watching the clock. Counting the hours had really driven me to the brink of panic. Christian fell asleep briefly and I watched most of Leap Year (a rom com that never really lifts off) and had dinner (five-spice pork with rice). That respite gave me hope. By the time he’d woken up, I was feeling like – heck yeah, if I can do THIS, I can do anything!

We were in the two center seats in the center aisle (I had only purchased one ticket, but the steward had blocked the seat next to me to give me more space.) The two guys at either end of me were exceptionally nice. The older man to my left was Asian and slept most of the flight. I’m pretty sure he just turned off his hearing aid on the ear facing me, but he was very decent about getting up every other pee run (I alternated between disturbing my two neighbors) and climbed on top of the seats in order to pull my suitcase down from the overhead storage compartment at the end of the flight. He even insisted on wheeling it off the airplane for me.

The other guy was an IT guy from Boston going to Taipei for a three-day (24-hour flight for a three-day trip!!!) business trip. He loaned us his new iPad to read a beautifully illustrated Winnie-the-Pooh and fed Christian yogurt-covered almonds. Enough said.

So we just kept plugging away at entertaining ourselves. We sang songs, told stories, and doodled a bit on bits of cardboard and magazine pages. Then Christian feel well and truly asleep. Woo-hoo!

Instead of sleeping myself, I took the opportunity to knit a bit and to watch Invictus (great movie about Nelson Mandela) and a complicated Italian romance that involved no less than six couples, called My Ex (also good). The next time I checked, we only had four plus hours to Taipei, less than flying to the east coast, and a time frame that didn’t flip my mind.

Christian woke up, but was pretty relaxed. I broke open some more snacks (slim jims and pretzels) and toys (matchbox helicopter).

We landed in Taipei and went through the whole rigomarole of disembarking, catching shuttle trains to different terminals, passing through security again, and then waiting for nearly three hours before reboarding. Luckily, the gate was in a spacious downstairs room by itself – meaning, Christian could pretty much roam safely with his mini-skateboards and matchbox cars. I struck up a conversation with a woman who not only had a teenage son taking AP tests this week, but also had several rental houses in Yucca Valley and Twenty-nine Palms. We had plenty to talk about and the time passed quickly.

Christian fell asleep nursing as the plane took off. All I can say is Hallelujah. It felt miraculous. The stewardesses had found me three empty seats in a row at the back of the plane, so Christian was sleeping fully outstretched and I ate my sweet and sour fish in peace and read the first half of the new Sookie Stackhouse book, Dead in the Family. It was an enjoyable three hours.

I was very appreciative of the fact that Christian was still nursing. It totally saved my butt. Besides sleeping through all three meals (with three different sleeps) and needing more than carb snacks to be nourished, Christian was just plain comforted through the whole noisy and intense experience by nursing off and on, especially during take-offs.

I arrived in Bangkok somewhere around 1 am Monday morning and my brother-in-law met us and brought us home via taxi.

The flight ended up being very manageable and now we’re quietly jetlagged and spacey here in the comfort of my sister’s lovely home. I’ll post pics when I find a cord to hook my camera up to the computer.

Whew – very glad to be here and not to have to do that flight again for another six weeks. Impressed too, that Christian only had one miss during that entire trip from our house to Sue’s house. He peed a total of ten times in public restrooms! One poop too!

P.S. Never even ended up giving Christian the emergency lollipop I’d packed – nor did I use the grow-your-own-animals sponge pills.

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Happy Mother's Day

I basically missed the U.S. Mother’s Day, since I was in transit over the Pacific from Saturday 3 pm Los Angeles to Monday 2 am Bangkok, but there was a funny little video waiting for me in my email when I booted up my computer for the first time.
You can watch it here.
Bella gave me a very sweet letter and manicure gift certificate before I left and sounds like my husband’s getting me an external hard drive – sheesh, maybe I should always go out of town for Mother’s Day!
Thanks for all the cyber wishes, my friends.

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Locks of Love

I’m clearing off my desk and getting a pile of parcels to post.

I got my hair cut last week and decided to send my cut hair to Locks of Love. I’ve heard that there are other organizations that are “better,” but I didn’t have the time and energy to track them down.
You need a minimum of ten inches, clean, dry and in a pony-tail. Dyed hair and gray hair is acceptable – only bleached hair is not.
Send your hair to
Locks of Love
234 Southern Blvd
West Palm Beach FL 33405-2701

You only need identify yourself and address if you want a thank you letter of acknowledgment.

In the end it wasn’t much hair. I wish I could see what happens to it next.

My hair was long! If you can't tell - the end of my hair is below the top of Aiden's hat

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Sweet Sticky Babyback Ribs in the Crockpot

I love ribs and rarely have a chance to indulge in them, so when I came across this recipe in More Best Recipes (the book version of the magazine Cooks Illustrated) I had to give it a try.
You start by making your own BBQ sauce (a whole jar of apricot jam! pureed bell peppers!) so the crock pot doesn’t save that much time, but you can use jarred sauce if prep speed and ease is what you’re looking for.
The results were mouth-watering.
It makes a lot and takes time, so it’s recipe for company.

Sweet Sticky Babyback Ribs in the Crockpot

1 onion
1 red bell pepper ( I used orange)
6 garlic cloves
1 6-inch piece of ginger, peeled and diced into 1/4-in rounds
vegetable oil
2 T tomato paste (I used the whole small can)
1 12-oz jar of apricot jam (I used the one for Trader Joe’s)
1 frozen pineapple juice (I used orange b/c that’s what I had)
6 T soy sauce
1/4 c brown sugar
5 T rice vinegar
1/4 red chili flakes
6 #s babyback or St. Louis-style ribs.
chopped cilantro for garnish (I skipped this)

1. Pulse the onion, bell pepper, garlic, and ginger in food processor ~8 times. Saute the veg puree with the tom sauce for 8-10 minutes until soft. Stir in jam, juice, soy sauce, sugar, half the vinegar, chili and cook until slickly thickened ~ 5 minutes.
2. Pat the ribs dry. Stack them standing spirally in the crockpot with the meaty side facing the heating wall. Pour the sauce over them. Cook 4-5 hours at low.
3. Transfer ribs to carving board and tent with foil. Let the sauce rest and then skim fat. Strain sauce through strainer and then simmer until reduced to 2 cups of BBQ sauce 15-20 min. (I didn’t do this until the second time we ate these ribs.)
4. Stir in remaining vinegar and season with salt and pepper.

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Another birthday train ride…

Aiden turned six on Monday – and he wanted the same train adventure that his sister had had for her birthday the previous month. We took the same Amtrak line south from Irvine, but stopped in Solana Beach for pizza at the Pizza Port and boogie boarding at the small cove beach there.
The boogie boarding was a blast – really exhilarating.
Great day!

The gang that rode the train (grandma, great grandma, and great aunt met us for lunch too).


We made short work of the lemon-y birthday treats.


The girls couldn't get enough sand play - they were very focused.


Birthday boy impressed us all by catching come good waves! Christian was content to balance on the boogie board and pretend he was surfing.


All the babies crashed out hard at one point or another. Here's Oliver in zoneland.

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The Monique-Murdy Cycle of Acceptance

Somehow I always seem to have more of an appetite for travel than the rest of my family, which seems (to me) easily solved by hopping off for a travel adventure on my own with baby in tow. But it always takes some time for Bella and Chad to come around to the idea. It’s not exactly the Kubler-Ross grief cycle, but close!

Resistance stage:
Chad: We can’t afford it.
Bella: You CAN’T go Mommmmm.

Bargaining stage:
Chad: You can go if I don’t miss Christian’s birthday.
Bella: You can go if you stay for less than two weeks. MOMMMMM, you CAN’T GO!

Acceptance stage:
Chad: I have some great bike rides planned for while you’re gone, and I’m going keep every surface in the house completely empty!
Bella: If you see some knock-off TIffany’s jewelry, I like necklaces – especially those silver rings that hang on a chain – wait, I have it pulled up on my computer right now…

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A Little Nostalgia for Yucca Valley

A music video set in my old town sent by an old teaching pal (thanks Candace!)
The lyrics are great:
Cactus wren on a Joshua tree, fill up your cup with pints of glee. Fire up the band and the old shotgun, in the hills of Yucca Valley. Meet you up at Machris Park, past Veffhaus, little fore dark. Catching air at Devils Playground in the hills of Yucca Valley.

Tortoise on the move over hot black top. Summer bon fires at Giant Rock.Shooting at cans with honest Jay Bolt in the hills of Yucca Valley. Yucca, cholla, creosote, top of the ridge theres a mountain goat. Chopper over head from Twentynine Palms in the hills of Yucca Valley.

Green Mojave and a diamondback, a family of quail and coyote trap. Moonshine gin form a juniper in the hills of Yucca Valley.Desert rat till the day I die, lie me down under western sky. I cant get away even though Ive from the hills of Yucca Valley.
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The theme song to that city along highway 62 in the mojave high desert. Yucca Valley. Hometown to infamous Poland Brothers. Directed by Jimmy Salazar. Shot in Yucca Valley, CA December 2008.
Invisible Mass Records ©2009

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Letter to Christian at 23 Months

Glee.


Dear Baby,

Forgive my endless hugging and smooching, but you are almost two years old. It is sending me into a near-panic to have you grow up so fast.
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I also have moments of wondering if you are going to make it to your second birthday. We got rid of the glass dining table (supported only by a center stand) after we caught you standing on the edge of it – twice. We locked the living room window to open only two inches after we discovered that you could stand belly to second-story window on the two-inch ledge. This is where a writer’s imagination does her disservice. I won’t even go into the horrific images that pass through my terrified mind. You’re a climber, a daredevil, and you shout “skateboarder!” at every punk kid we see.

You’ve taken to putting one foot into a shoe box lid, and pushing yourself down the hallway with your other foot, yelling, “Look Mama! Ti-ti skateboarding!” Last week, I found you precariously balanced, both arms outstretched, on an overturned xerox box on the bed. As the box shifted back and forth on top of the comforter and pillows, you shouted, “Mama! Ti-ti surfing!” and then with a “Ti-ti jumping!” you threw your body off the box and onto the bed with peals of laughter. Action verbs are going to be your thing.

You’re irresistibly cute and snuggly still, thank goodness. When you say, very clearly, “I NEED MAMA,” my heart just about breaks every time.

I love you, Dear.

Let’s go have some more fun.

Love,

Mama
P.S. In this video, the warm water that Christy is talking about is some other water park – the water Christian is flinging himself into here in the Children’s Garden is pretty dang cold.
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Camping at Point Mugu State Park

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It is pretty amazing to live in California and have access to so many state parks and beaches.

Last month we spent a couple nights camping on the coast (and I mean, really, on the coast) in Ventura County, just a few hours away from home. Chad’s brother came out and joined us for a day of hiking and marshmellow roasting (between him, Chad, Christian, and I, we managed to roast every marshmellow in an entire bag…)

Potty with a view.


This campground was okay. You see the silver car? That's PCH. Luckily our proximity to the surf drowned out any other sounds.


Camping is definitely one of Christian's all-time favorite things to do. He would wake up in the morning with a big smile and say, "Tent!"


Roasting, roasting, and more roasting. I can't believe I almost didn't bring marshmellows...They were immensely satisfying and delicious - after a long hike, for breakfast...


Sci-fi city we could see in the horizon. I want to live there!


This would be a great place to watch whales pass by in the right season. I took this shot as we were almost back from our 7 1/2 mile hike.

We stayed at Thornhill Broome, which does not have shower facilities. The south end of the campground seems to be a popular place for RV’s to pull up. The sites at the far north are best for camping, because the scrub-covered dunes offer some protection from the wind and sun.

Christian and I managed to snag a couple of hot showers once we discovered the shower in the group campground across the street had been left unlocked. The price I paid, though, was having a ranger unlock the door while I was standing there naked with the baby.

Luckily, I managed to scramble behind the door when I heard somebody turning the lock.

Even more luckily, I had had a short conversation with a man who was part of the group coming in for the weekend – so I pretended I was with them. The ranger hastily apologized and left me alone. I never saw his face.

Next time we’ll try to get in at Sycamore Canyon, which is inland, but therefore quieter and more peaceful. There are showers there.
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Save the Date!

We’re getting ready for our annual World Breastfeeding Week Family Picnic. I’m in charge of the vendors. This is the meetup description I posted for my attachment parenting meetup group.

YOU ARE INVITED! COME AND HAVE FUN WITH US!


August 7, 2010, 11am-2pm
Alta Laguna Park in Laguna Beach
(PCH to Laguna Ave, which turns into Park and you take Park to the top of the world and turn Left on Alta Laguna, the park is on the right).

Bring your sunscreen, sun umbrella, and blankets or chairs.

This event was a tremendous success last year – besides raising several thousand dollars for the local La Leche League groups, about 150 families had fun all day long.

Again, we’ve already scored some wonderful donations for our opportunity drawing and online auction and family gift bags. The first 100 families get a goodie bag! So far, the gift bags will include Natrcare products, a copy of Mothering Magazine, samples of Tanner’s Tasty Paste, Badger’s Lip Balm, xylitol chewing gum by xclear, and more.

There will be 9-10 vendor booths with local businesses including an on-site photobooth with Steph Fowler Photography (see last year’s sweet pics here), the Shoebox (professional shoe-fitting for our toddlers), and cloth diapers through envirobabystore.com.

We hope to see you there; it will be great fun for the whole family. We’ll be having a BIG bake sale, all-natural hotdog sales, and a craft and game for the kids. Please pass this info along to all your friends.

See you soon!
Sierra, Kimberly, and Hope – LLL Leaders
and core volunteers Liz, Jeannie, Noel, and Jaimie

P.S. As always, we WELCOME VOLUNTEERS.
If you would like to volunteer an hour of your time setting up, breaking down, or minding a booth, check this link to peruse our volunteer sign-up, bake sale, or items needed spreadsheets (through google docs).
Then contact me and I’ll add you to the list!

P.P.S. To see what was in the 100 FREE gift bags we gave away LAST year, check here. This year, the loot bags promise to be even better. We’ll post a list of items soon.

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