Cambodia – dreams, dinner and decadence

My brother Songbae’s last missive from Cambodia:

“not necessarily in that order:

dinner – phnom penh has a lot of koreans and korean resturaunts. went to one last night called pyong yang. all the waitresses are from north korea. they sang some karaoke while we ate.

dreams – not about cambodia but a newspaper article i read while having breakfast in cambodia. when a school girl was asked what she wanted to be when she grew up she said a government official. when asked what kind she said a corrupt one because they have lots of nice things.

decadence – there’s a fancy new hotel that i stopped by to check out today. at the spa i asked if there were separate steam rooms for men and woman. they said no, everyone gets their own individual jacuzzi, steam room and sauna.

massage therapist – how old are you?

me – 40 massage therapist – how come your face doesn’t look that old?

me – shrug

massage therapist – but your hair looks that old

massage therapist – are you married?

me – no massage therapist – oh, that’s so sad, sorry

massage therapist – what do you do?

me – i’m not working. i’m looking for a job?

massage therapist – they’re looking for a spa manager”

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Happy Birthday CHAD!

Headed to Regen Projects (a gallery) in Los Angeles last Friday.

Headed to Regen Projects (a gallery) in Los Angeles last Friday.

Here’s to many more days of adventuring together in your 39th year. I love that we explore cities as well as the outdoors together.

And here’s to eating cake together (although with tonight’s lasagna, I think an apple crisp will suit better).

Carrot cake made for Chads co-workers on Wednesday.

Carrot cake made for Chad's co-workers on Wednesday.

We love you and appreciate you. Get home quick so we can spend all weekend having birthday fun!

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The First Waldorf Playgroup

was a resounding success!

We managed to create exactly the kind of environment I want around Christian: calm and focused, AND I had fun (very important indicator of success). From the looks on everybody’s faces, children and adults alike I think everything went smashingly well and we all had fun.

Of course there are things that I would love to improve upon – especially material things, like wishing I’d finished the handmade animals for the story – but the overall feeling and mood was perfect. For instance, I’m expressing regret about not finishing my animals or not having more props, but the children were absolutely riveted to my version of The Little Red Hen even though the cat was an old beanie baby of Bella’s. And impressed even with my single strum of the lap harp before beginning the story. (That’s what so GREAT about kids!!)

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And despite all the worry, the transitions went smoothly, the craft was appreciated, the brown rice and fruit was devoured, and the two hours flew by. I think we even did a good job with balancing “out” energy with “in” energy.

It was interesting to note how different the energy was from our regular open-to-everybody playdates in the park. I don’t know whether it’s just because the group was smaller (eight families) or because of all the structure, but the energy was noticeably different; it was a very pleasant focused energy. We still did lots of chatting and running after children, but the clear delineation of jobs (who’s watching the kids, who’s taking care of food) really allowed each mom to relax and focus on her hand project.

Also, within that structure, there was little to no feeling of being rushed or being pressed for time. Activities seemed to flow into each other and the songs came easily. We were all pretty relaxed.

I am really looking forward to meeting with this group of mamas every Thursday for as long as we can. Now I have to start planning the second cycle!

P.S. The simplicity and pleasure of the puppet show gave me new confidence. To see a post of another example of a Waldorf-style puppet show check this link at my friend Darlene’s blog. She also posted a sweet photo of a puppet show she gave almost twenty years ago here.

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First Day Jitters

Tomorrow will be our first Waldorf Playgroup in the Woods, and I’m hosting.

And really, instead of posting, I should be cutting out more owls for the craft the mamas will be doing, but I’ll consider this post a playgroup rehearsal.

I intend to arrive by 9 am, even though the group starts at 10, because I will have a lot of stuff to haul in and set up. That said, here is my list of what to bring:

  • cooked brown rice and paddle
  • bowl for fruit salad and serving spoon
  • cutting boards and knives
  • table
  • tablecloth
  • 12 bowls and spoons
  • handwashing station plus a couple squirts of dish soap
  • a couple hand towels
  • owl finger puppet
  • silks: for covering food and story set-up, for the owl rhyme, for the rainbow bridge, and for the scenery of the story
  • animals and hand puppets for the story
  • lap harp to strum before the story begins

All the moms and kids will be arriving around 9:30 am to set up their blankets, say hello, and let the kids run off some energy.

I will sing them into the circle with “Follow, Follow Me” (which we’ve just discovered is in Shea Darian’s book Seven Times the Sun). The rest of the songs and lyrics for the circle are here.

After which I will release the kids into playtime while the mamas have craft time. I am thinking that I will transition them into play by having them spin, and the mamas can quickly make their way over to the blankets

where there will be seven little craft packets waiting. Everybody will make a wise old owl finger puppet to go with the poem we are using. He stands perched on my arm which is draped in brown silk while I recite the short poem. I’m pretty proud of this owl as I designed him myself from a photo of an owl in the Zoonews magazine we get from the San Diego Zoo.

Note: two moms will be assisting me tomorrow – my main mom assistant came over yesterday to make the owl with me which worked out well. She’ll probably not have time to make one tomorrow.

After 30-40 minutes, I will sing the kids back to me with a handwashing song. We’ll proceed through the handwashing station and be sung to the table, which will have 12 stainless steel bowls full of brown rice and fruit salad. (Prepping the salad and setting the table is the job of the main assistant. The fruit salad is made from the washed organic piece of fruit that each child brings to contribute.) We will sing a short grace and eat all together sitting on a blanket. I need to be mindful to keep the children together and calm while eating.

As each child finishes, he or she will rinse his or her bowl and go to play some more. The assistant will mind the children playing while I set up the story, which is The Little Red Hen. I will be telling the story from memory with stuffed animals and puppets (mostly handmade). There is of course a short verse to sing before the beginning of the story.

After the story, I will sing the children right into the closing circle, which consists of two short verses with motions and then two short goodbye songs.

And that’s all! It seems quick and easy when I write it up like that.

Still to do:

  • Cut owl finger puppet kits
  • Make a red hen (!!! I left the red hen I made in Thailand and it’s currently in the post on its way back to me…)
  • Make a lamb (can use a turtle hand puppet I borrowed if I don’t get to this)
  • Finish my pig (can use pig puppet I also borrowed…)
  • Nail the closing songs.
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First Day of School

Bella has basically spent all summer getting ready for this first day of her junior year. And almost had a melt-down when all three of the printers in the house ran out of ink on Labor Day, before all her AP Lang work was printed. Whew – Target was still open.

Not only did she have all her homework done (a given), her clothes picked out (a given), but she even washed my car, so that she wouldn’t be picked up in a dirty car (omg – how embarrassing!) on her first day.

She’s a junior. I think my junior year of high school is when I started to have what I consider my first adult memories. It was when I turned 16 that I started to feel like, Yup this is me. This is who I am going to be.

Bella’s first day is marked by a presidential address.

Read Obama’s address to the students of the United States here.

I applaud Obama’s efforts to improve this country by reaching out and encouraging the youth to figure out what it is that they do well – what they can do to contribute to this world, not just this nation.

Bella’s principal handled it diplomatically. He wrote in an email to all the parents that it wasn’t realistic to show 3000+ the same TV address at the same time, but that the speech would be available for viewing all week long during lunch and tutorial periods. Also, that some teachers might choose to air the speech to their classes, but any student wishing to desist, need only tell his or her teacher.

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A Postable Email from Songbae

My brother is still whooping it up in SE Asia (as his 40th birthday looms near on the 21st of September…) and I got this email from him this morning:

“forgot to mention that i bribed a cop today when i got pulled over on
my scooter.

rented a scooter to get around.  was looking for a movie theater
(another story) and did a uturn on a one-way street when a cop
standing on the sidewalk waved for me to pull over:

cop: “one way”
me: “uh”
cop: “fine.  station.  more.”
me: “uh”
cop: silent
me: (watching about 20 other motorbikes go the wrong way down the
one-way street)
cop: silent
me:  “fine?  how much?”
cop: “up to you”
me: “how about 4,000 riel?” (4,200 riel = $1)
cop:  laughs
me:  “i don’t have a job and they just cancelled my unemployment
benefits because they think i’m whooping it up in bangkok” (didn’t
really say this, just thought it)
cop: “$5”
me: <gasp> “that’s how much it cost me to rent my scooter for one day”
(almost true.  it was $6)
cop: “cambodia very cheap”
me: <hmmmm> “$3?”
cop: “ok”

then the cop took me over to a nearby street stall so i could buy a
rain poncho (it was raining).  as i pulled away, he waved me over
again and before i could finish calculating in my head how much more i
was going to have to pay him he leaned over and turned off my turn
signal which i had left on.”

And in case you missed my account of how to bribe a Thai policeman from last year, you can read it here.

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The Pleasures (and Panics) of (Almost) Grown Children

While we were away for a month, Bella’s car needed to be moved and reparked twice a week or street cleaning, so she worked out a deal with Chad: he’d move the car twice each week and in exchange she would cook dinner for us all. The results have been more than satisfactory.

Wednesday: Bella made Walnut Banana Bread with a recipe she brought home from Starbuck’s.

Thursday: Bella wanders in my room and says, “What’s that site you like for recipes?” and then gets all the ingredients for and cooks a Baked Ziti with Proscuitto and Peas from the Williams-Sonoma site. (She’s not eating pork or beef at the moment, so we used chicken sausage in lieu of prosciutto.)

Friday: Superbowl-style Nachos

Saturday: Cannelloni with Spinach and Pine Nuts and a pensive comment, “I didn’t pick very healthy meals for my three dinners…” (but delicious and creamy!)

Sunday: An hour of driving practice with Bella. It was her first time outside the parking lot of our gated community. I still feel queasy. It took three times around a parking lot for her to get into position to park… into a PULL IN SPOT!

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Redefining the Line: Art Noveau and the Female Figure

Snow White, 2005

Snow White, 2005 by Aya Kato

The group exhibition, Redefining the Line: Art Nouveau & the Female Figure, feels like the fond gaze of Art Nouveau’s forebears (Mucha, Klimt, Beardsley, Gaudi) on their modern day grandchildren, although the irony is that the nature of pen and ink drawings of the female form – however much tweaked by 21st century software – still seems sweetly antiquated, in light of the dizzying array of objects and actions that huddle together under the vast umbrella of contemporary art today. The best work here gives itself up to the pyschedelic doodle and Japanese manga/animé influence as in Aya Kato’s giclée and silkscreen prints on the back wall. Comic book collectors and record album cover appreciators will especially enjoy this show (Cal State Fullerton, Orange County).

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Dragon Poop (or Fruit of Thailand in August)

Rambutan, which I never had an opportunity to try, but I photographed on numerous occasions.

Rambutan, which I never had an opportunity to try, but I photographed on numerous occasions.

Folks keep asking me to expand on what I ate while I was in Thailand.

Lots and lots and lots of fruit. Most any fruit in season can be purchased on the street by the bag (plastic of course), already cut and ready to eat with a wooden skewer, for less than a dollar. A whole pineapple, sweeter than I’d ever tasted, cut into bite-sized bits or a mango (mostly green mango right now, which has a crunchy dry flesh and tart flavor) or papaya, would get us through the morning or afternoon until our next proper meal.

Whatever it is about that climate, the hot humidity seems to foster a orgy of super-sweet fruits, many of which were in season while I was there – since August is the beginning of the rainy season, and many of which I’ve never seen or even heard of here in the States.

Sue buying mankoot from her favorite fruit vendor on the soi.

Sue buying mankoot from her favorite fruit vendor on the soi.

It did seem to be the end of mankoot (also known as mangosteen) season, but there were still enough around at the beginning of my visit to get my fill of the very sweet grape-like sections of my favorite fruit. The other fruit I missed was noi naa, a CREAMY custard apple, for which my niece was nick-named. Apparently it came into season the day after I left town.

Even after experiencing durian, I cannot envision what a noi naa might taste like. The outside is like a knobby green apple and about the same size. But Sue was adament about eating fruit in season, and there were so many in season, that I’m not really complaining – just explaining.

Joss and Noi naa by a longons and durian cart.

Joss and Noi naa by a longon and durian cart.

Durian is among one of the most bizarre things I’ve eaten. The outside of the durian is formidable and intimating: the size of a watermelon but with a thick spiky brown-green rind and these things grow on trees and hang overhead! Very little of this fruit is eaten: the vendors cut open the rind and pry out yam-sized white things that look like, I hate to say this, pig fetuses, from the center. Sometimes there are several of these “centers” in a single durian. The rest, the rind, and all the white enveloping fiber is tossed aside.

The “centers” are creamy. Yes, creamy. And sweet, almost like a carmelized onion. They are very filling, and eating one is similar to eating a roasted yam (which is another popular street food).

The thing that durian is infamous for though, is its odor. Within just a few hours up being cut open (freshness is critical when eating durian), the durian begins to emit an overpowering sickly sweet stench that is universally despised. Think the word “universal” is too strong? There are signs on the subway and in taxis forbidding passengers to carry durian on board, right next to No Smoking and No Sex.

No Durian is sixth from the left.

"No Durian" is sixth from the left.

Further, I was first introduced to durian at Not-Back-To-School Camp many years ago, by a satirical song and skit done by two campers, revering the offputting smell of durian and climaxing in a challenge to the whole of camp to eat a piece. (Although, in retrospect, I wonder if they knew how to eat durian?)

And lastly, even my sister strictly forbids the eating of durian in her house (so I had to do it while she was in South Africa…)

Vendors use box-cutters to slice into sala, and the rind comes off in a single diagonal spiky strip.

Vendors use box-cutters to slice into sala, and the rind comes off in a single diagonal spiky strip.

She does allow sala, which she dropped in front of me with an admonition not to mind the smell. Sala was not so sweet, but slightly tart and acidic. The flavor was strong and very addictive, but it was best eating slowly while chatting. For some reason it reminded me of the peanuts one might eat while drinking beer – maybe because I felt like sala should accompany something to cut its bite – but I never found its perfect pair.

 Me and Christian with pomelo, one of our everyday favorites.

Me and Christian with pomelo, one of our everyday favorites.

Three things we ate on near daily basis were pomelo, longon, and dragon fruit. Pomelo appears to be closely related to grapefruit, but with much larger pulp. Its flavor was mild and it was easy to demolish tray after tray. This was a fruit we always got already peeled – the vendors painstakingly got rid of all the rind, white (I know the white has a name, but what is it??), and veins – leaving only delicious, refreshing pulp.

Longons were in peak season and were always on the table for snacking.

Longons were in peak season and were always on the table for snacking.

Longons took me a few days to appreciate. Each ping-pong ball-sized longon is peeled individually to reveal something that looks a bulb of garlic, but with the texture and flavor of a grape.

Dragon fruit comes with white or red flesh. The red variety looks wilder and turns your pee pink and your poo unspeakable purple.

Dragon fruit comes with white or red flesh. The red variety looks wilder and turns your pee pink and your poo unspeakable purple.

The kids loved dragon fruit and so we would cut one almost everyday. The flesh was unusually beautiful and exotic as it was flecked with small black seeds. The seeds were easy to eat, with about as much crunch as a strawberry seed; they also created a healthy mucous-y gel, like flax, in the belly, which I think was very healthy for our guts. We could always tell when the kids had been eating dragon fruit, because their poop would come out speckled with the same black seeds.

Wish I had some now.

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Life Past Jet Lag

It’s taken three nights before Christian has stopped getting up for about 2 hours in the middle of the night perky and ready for the “day.” And another night of lots of waking, but not leaving the bed. But now with two regular nights of sleep under my belt, I feel ready to rejoin the living.

Whew. And to imagine that I was going to boast about how little jet lag I suffered when I arrived in Thailand. Normally, the jet lag is worst when I arrive in Asia, and not as bad when I fly home. But this time Christian and I painlessly adapted to our schedule in Bangkok, while my brother and Bella seemed dazed for several days; while it has taken me almost a week to get back to normal here at home.

My theories on how to avoid jet lag range widely, and ping pong back and forth between being completely sleep-saturated and rested before flying; and being sleep-deprived. I think now, that the first option is definitely the more effective one.

Typically before leaving on a big trip I am too amped up to sleep much the night before. Also, I frequently leave my packing to the last minute and often spend my last evening (and night) packing in a rush. This time though, armed with an advance (and long) list of things my sister needed from the States I started packing weeks before my departure. Meaning my suitcase was nearly completely packed almost a week in advance of my trip. Also meaning that the baby and I got many solid good nights of sleeping before leaving, so we were well-rested.

I was so well-rested, in fact, that I barely slept on the plane, though the baby did.

ALSO, my brother had been given a homeopathic remedy, an oral spray by Liddell Laboratories called JLg (Thank you Tara!), and I was the only one who ended up using it religiously every two hours during the flight over.

Despite the successful avoidance of bad jet lag on the way over, I tried almost the reverse on the way back. In an effort to break my sleeping pattern towards the end of my trip, I was staying up late at nights in Bangkok, sometimes until 3 – 4 am. The theory being that I was trying to break my body’s habit of sleeping during what is a California day before arriving in California. I don’t think that process was useful in the end, except for making me exhausted for my trip. Also I forgot an unreasonable number of possessions at my sister’s house. No regrets there though – had some great late night conversations alternately with my brother and sister – brother-in-law was always wise enough to hit the sack early. Furthermore, since I was traveling back by myself with the baby, it was harder for me to administer the Jlg spray, in fact although I had packed in my carry-on, I completely forgot about it.

I suppose it makes sense. If I wanted to prepare for an all-nighter, which is essentially what happens when I travel to a time zone 17 hours different than my own, I would get more sleep, not less.

So, in sum I need to remember to sleep well before my long trips to Asia and back. No more sleep experiments for me. I am getting past the age where a state of delirium is enjoyable, even when that state of daze is populated by dreams of Sookie Stackhouse and her various vampire lovers (did a whirlwind catch-up of True Blood while the baby was sleeping his days away).

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