Beginnings and Ends

Hello, My name is Jeannie and I like to begin things. It’s really, really hard for me to finish things. I also suffer from the related affliction of procrastination.

It’s just that the idea of something has, let’s face it, the potential to be perfect, while the finished product so often is not. I like to live in the glow-y warm haze of ideal perfection, imagining how wonderful that sage green alpaca vest is going to look on my dad; not, “why is the ribbing around my arm so wavy?”

So far, in 2012, I have completed FIVE KNITTING PROJECTS. That’s a major accomplishment for me (even though three of those projects were on the brink of completion at the end of 2011).

Project 1: Mom’s shawl

Project 2: Dad’s vest (second try, he didn’t like the color of the first vest I made)

Projects 3, 4, 5: Three pairs of bubble gum pink sock slippers for my sister and her two little daughters.

So that leaves me in a quandary. Does this give me license to start a new project?

My heart screams, “YESSSS!”

My head sighs,”But there are so many projects left to go…”

I generally keep about one to two dozen projects aloft at any one given moment. Some of the overlap is understandable, because one needs a quick little project that can fit in a purse, and bigger projects for at home while watching oscar-nominated films, and then too, birthdays and special occasions pop up and require rush status. But, admittedly, a large part of this is that it is painful for me to finish a project. Not pleasurable as some people find. I had an ache in my gut when I put the last of my new year’s cards in the post today. And that’s the first time I’ve actually mailed all my cards within the year intended since 1993 (when Bella was born).

After some tea, and some thought, I made a decision today: I will use this momentum to finish two more quick easy projects (Bella and Christian’s socks for Easter baskets) and then start a new baby vest for a yet-unborn new niece or nephew. Chad’s sister is pregnant!

Maybe, just maybe, I’ll buy some yarn too. Shhh, don’t tell my mom, she thinks I already have enough for my lifetime. That’s so untrue! Anyway, I delight in the anticipation of future projects from my yarn stash…THAT is a pleasure.

 

 

 

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It’s Viral

I stayed home with my sick kid today and as my co-instructor also had a sick kid, Forest Kindie was canceled today for the first time.

As Christian is now so fond of saying, his eyes are all gummed up. He has pink eye, but he doesn’t.

From what I understand, bacterial conjunctivitis is the pink eye we all know and fear: massively itchy pink eyes, very contagious, and no other symptoms. It is commonly treated with antibiotic eye drops.

Christian has a viral version; which in layperson’s language, he has a cold or a flu that is manifesting through his eyes and other parts of his body (fever at night, cancre sores at back of throat, painful barking cough). Antibiotics are of no help here. But like most colds and flus, it should be short-lived, and indeed, Christian’s eyes were gummed shut only yesterday morning. Today they’ve had a bit of goop in the inner corner once or twice. The whites of his eyes are not red, though he did have red puffy circles around his eyes yesterday, almost like he’d been crying or suffering from allergies. He IS contagious as long as his eyes are red and oozing, which is why the doctor thought he might be contagious today, and why I called in sick, but I think he is mostly now recovering.

The timeline went like this:

Sunday – he appeared energetic and happy, with a little bit of a drippy nose in just one nostril

Sunday night – he started a barking cough and woke up crying several times through the night.

Monday – Chad was also not feeling well (stinging eyes, sensitivity to the light, and general malaise) so he called in sick and I went to forest kindergarten by myself (*sad*). During the day Christian hardly seemed sick, although he was still coughing.

Monday night – Christian woke repeatedly crying again. And spiked a fever in the middle of the night that was gone by morning.

Tuesday morning – Christian woke with his eyes fused shut by goop. I canceled all my plans and made an appointment with Dr. Bob Sears in San Clemente.

Chad and I went back-and-forth just a little bit, because it would have been easier and cheaper to run into the urgent care at bottom of our street. HOWEVER, I felt confident that Christian would be prescribed antibiotics WHETHER OR NOT they were going to be useful (I believe that antibiotics are over prescribed and over-used) If it was pink eye, I wanted it diagnosed properly by a pediatrician who was loathe to over-prescribe meds, so in the end we coughed up the $60 for sick visit and went in. (Dr. Bob is out-of-network, and makes you file all your own insurance claims. We love him, but are grateful to only have to see him once a year…)

Wednesday – Christian would not appear sick to most people. His energy and mood were good; we did a bunch of spring planting/transplanting and porch cleaning – he even went down and rode his balance bike for a while.

I anticipate an excellent deep night of sleep. And hope for a bright-eyed boy in the morning.

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Sorority Insight

I have still shaking my head in disbelief at how much Bella has benefited from being a part of a sorority. Any class, teacher, job, or association at UCLA she’s interested in, there is a Delta Gamma sister who can help her out by giving advice or by introducing her to the right people.

She’s even gotten involved in the governing body at school, because the president happens to be a Delta Gamma (or “DG sister” – yes, they really do use that kind of terminology).
I believe in doing favors for friends. A sorority is a formalized network of friends, who are committed to supporting one another and believe in doing charitable work.

Here is an example of the kind of letter she gets in her email box:
From: XXXXXXX XXXXX <xxxxxxx@gmail.com>
Date: February 27, 2012 10:29:17 PM PST
To: DeltaGamma@lists.ucla.edu
Subject: [DeltaGamma] Medical Assistant Job Opportunity

Hey guys!!

I’m leaving my job by the end of March and I am helping my boss find a replacement for me. Dr. XXXXXX is a pretty well-known dermatologist and needs a front/back office medical assistant in his Beverly Hills practice every Friday and every other Monday 9:15-5:00. The other days of the week are not an option because he works out of his other office those days. I absolutely LOVE going to work and I’ve learned so so so much from him and the other people I work with. If you want to learn, which has always been my mindset, he is an amazing teacher and is very willing to let you try things! I’m really sad I have to leave the job but it’s not working with my schedule anymore. He wants a DELTA GAMMA to pass this wonderful job opportunity too; XXXXX XXXXX  (graduated last year) held this job before me and I’m pretty sure another girl held it before her. He’s the most friendly man you will ever meet and he loves the whole sorority thing and would love it if someone I knew could take the job after me.
I work with two other great women who will also teach you so much about the medical field, billing, front desk work, and really anything you want to know. They have become some of my great friends and I’m really sad to go! Some of my responsibilities in the back office including rooming patients, bandaging after mole removals, preping patients for cosmetic procedures (like numbing!), writing prescriptions, drawing up shots/botox/fillers, and answering patient questions. In the front office I’m responsible for answering the phone, preparing charts, scheduling appoints, taking payment, and greeting patients.
This is a big commitment (he wants the new hire to work for at least 1 year including over the summer). If classes are an issue Mondays or Fridays, this position will not work out for you. I had to rely on XXXXXX for notes during the classes that I missed so if you are willing to do that pleaseeee email me! You do not need to be a science major but it helps a lot and it’s such great experience and looks SO good on a resume. I was also able to shadow the doctor and his physician’s assistant for so many hours over the summer and you will be able to too!

So let me sum it up:
Job: medical assistant
When: Every Friday & every other Monday 9:15-5:00, starting April 2 (first day of Spring quarter)
Where: XXXXXXX Dr. in Beverly Hills (down the street from Sprinkles cupcakes:))

The position is paid 🙂 PLEASE contact me if you are the slightest bit interested. You do not need a car because the bus takes less than 10 minutes to get there!
Email me at XXXXXXX@gmail.com or text me (XXX)XXX-XXXX if you have any questions. If you’re interested I will set up an interview time for you.

Thanks so much for reading!

ITBest be jumping on this amazing opportunity,
XXXXXX XXXXX
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DeltaGamma@lists.ucla.edu
http://lists.ucla.edu/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/deltagamma

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Currently Obsessed with Kale

One bunch of "dinosaur" kale, washed and mostly dried.

Yes, I know: kale is pretty trendy these days. But that’s okay, eating more kale is never going to be bad for anybody.

After cutting out the stiff stalk, I cut most leaves into 3 pieces: two skinny from the sides of the stalk and the leafy top.

Today I bought four organic bunches at Sprout’s. The bagger knowingly nodded at the lasinto bunches and said, “Kale chips?”
I nodded, “Yes.”
“Dehydrator?”
When I said that I made them in my oven, he lost interest.

I have made them in somebody else’s dehydrator, and they were good that way also. In the oven is easier, faster, and more delicious (albeit, less nutrition and less enzymes).
I have made four batches in four days. I can’t eat enough of this stuff.

2T olive oil, 1T miso, 1T vinegar - nothing was measured, just splashed and scooped.

KALE CHIPS
The kale must be washed and dried. Then the stems should be cut out. Cut the leafy part into large sections.
I made a dressing. This is a recipe from a friend; I think she got it off epicurious. I mixed 2T olive oil (costco organic) with 1T miso (white) and 1T vinegar (red wine). Then I tossed it with the kale.
Spread loosely on a cookie sheet. Put in a 170 oven (that’s the lowest mine goes). Stir it around gently once in a while. Eat a few crispy bits.
Takes a couple hours, so it’s a good activity to have going on while you’re having a home day.

One bunch makes a small batch. The chips are surprisingly delicate, but satisfying. As one friend has admitted,"These are BETTER than potato chips!"

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Have shovel, will dig

Some people go to the beach for long walks. Some go to watch the sun set or to look for migrating gray whales.

Not my family. We go to the beach to dig.

Last week, my husband made a bit of a spectacle of himself after Christian wrecked his tunnel through the sand. Apparently, the damp sand conditions there at Crystal Cove made for a “once-in-a-lifetime” opportunity for tunnel hole construction, and not only did I miss taking the right video, but Christian and I both failed to recognize the importance of the occasion.

Hence, I was mildly apprehensive about returning to Crystal Cove today EVEN THOUGH Chad assured me that his new man-sized shovel would make everything better.

Turned out that conditions WERE STILL PERFECT for tunnel-building.

Christian and I did nothing to break Chad’s concentration, except to feed him bits of beef jerky and milk chocolate from time to time.

Then, when construction was complete, I assisted with the camera (Chad generously overlooked the fact that I’d forgotten the real camera and had to use my phone) and Christian was prepped on his lines. Yes, and after SIX takes, we got an acceptable video. I pointed out that even professional child actors probably needed that many takes; still, Chad grumbled that he would expect a little more COOPERATION from a paid actor…

P.S. I have no idea why Christian is supposed to yell ” Parachute!” when he emerges from the tunnel.

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Chad’s Top 11 of ’11

  • Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy

    The Adventures of Tintin

    A Separation

    The Descendants

    Tree Of Life

    Midnight In Paris

    Attack The Block

    X-Men: First Class

    Drive

    Fast Five

    Bridesmaids

Just realized that the Oscar’s are this Sunday. Anybody (who has cable) want company? We come with appetizers!

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Real or not real?

I got this email from Mxxxxx yesterday, and I wondered if it was some kind of sophisticated prank:

Dear Jeannie,

Hi there.  My name is Mxxxxxx and I stumbled upon your blog (googled “how to talk to women”) and I thought you might be a good person to turn to for advice, so here goes.  I met a very intelligent and attractive woman at an art gallery opening a few weeks ago.  She was a high school teacher in her early 30’s (I’m 28, so a little older than me).  We had been talking for about a half hour and really developed a great rapport.  We had even made tentative plans to meet for coffee sometime.  

Then, things suddenly went downhill. There was a pause in the conversation and since she had classic curves (large bust, narrow waist, etc.), I commented that she had a “really nice, hourglass figure”.  My intent was to be complimentary and a little flirtatious but instead she became deeply offended that I was talking about her figure.  I went into damage control mode and tried to clarify my comments but the more I talked, the more I exacerbated things as she rolled her eyes and shook her head.  She told me I was being “inappropriate” and that she was “very disappointed” and then WHAP!, she slapped my face and departed.

As I stood there alone rubbing my cheek, I was trying to figure out why she was so upset.  Do you have any thoughts?  Do you think I should email her an apology note?  

Mxxxxxx

I was still considering answering his email, when I got a second email today, which to my mind, verified his existence:

Well, curiosity got the best of me and I sent her an apology note earlier today.  Surprisingly, she got back to me and her response is below if you’re interested.  

Hello Mxxxxxx and thank you for the apology.  If you’re not yet aware, it is very inappropriate and highly offensive to size up a woman the first time you meet her.  It’s unfortunate that you chose to do this, since we had a nice conversation up to that point.  I’m passionate about being a teacher and like to be appreciated for who I am, what I do, and not how well I can fill out a bra.  Your words, along with your tone and demeanor made me feel very uncomfortable and objectified — hence the slap across the face.  

With all of that said, I hold no lingering hard feelings.  At least you showed some good manners by apologizing and knew that it was proper etiquette to turn the other cheek when a female slaps you.  Hopefully you can learn from this experience and have better luck in the future.   

I replied

Hello Mxxxxx,
Thanks for the update. I am interested.
In my opinion, it is not appropriate to comment on a woman’s body until she is happily naked with you in bed. Then, feel free to go crazy telling her how much you love her body.
May I post this email exchange at womantalk? Without your real names, I mean. It is always fascinating to me how differently men and women perceive these issues!
Best,
Jeannie
www.womantalk.org

He wrote back instantly (even though he still uses an archaic hotmail address):

Jeannie, thanks for getting back to me!  Yes, feel free to post the story on your site.   

Lesson well learned, save the body compliments until later.  I guess I just thought we had a great comfort level.  In any case, I struck out with the ladies on all counts that night.  A few minutes later the owner of the gallery, a woman in her 40’s suggested that it would be best if I left.  Being a guy is not easy – not only did I get slapped but then tossed out on the street, lol.   

I can’t tell if the dude is a jerk or not. What do you think?

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Waldorf Circle Time Resources

After three plus years of organizing and leading weekly circle times for the 0-7 year old set, I have definitely developed favorite resources. Recently, friends (and strangers) have been asking me what those resources are.

I use what appears to be common resources for Waldorf kindgergartens and parent-toddler groups, as the songs and handplays are often repeated throughout, and also match the materials I originally got from a Waldorf teacher.

I meet with my forest kindergarten twice a week. Many of the songs, blessings, and transitions stay the same throughout the year. At the beginning of each month, I change out 4-6 songs and handplays in the opening circle. Closing circle is always the same. Since I’ve begun working with Earthroots, I’ve been incorporating even more songs about nature, and less about fairies, gnomes, and elves (even though, personally, I find those magical creatures delightful and stimulating to the young child’s curiosity and imagination).

Betty Jones’ A Child’s Seasonal Treasury is my first go-to resource. The book begins with all-year round verses and poems and then movement and drama, including four that I use regularly: a mealtime blessing, a goodbye song and movement, and a morning song. While all four songs and movements were originally introduced to me orally by a Waldorf teacher, it was a relief to find the musical notation and also the described motions. The rest of the book is organized seasonally with poems, songs and even simple crafts and recipes. This large hard cover book can appear to be expensive online (new $100+), but if you are patient, you can find a used copy for under $30 on amazon.

I try and include at least one pentatonic song from Elisabeth Lebret’s Pentatonic Songs for nursery, kindergarten and grades 1 and 2, every month. It’s a challenge to learn a new song every month, but I like having the opportunity to stretch myself, and try not to overly rely on the much over-played conventional songs (Itsy Bitsy Spider; Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star, etc). And underneath their groans, I imagine that my fellow mamas are appreciating the exposure to new songs too.

I also love to open up my very old copy of the Waldorf-inspired first grade homeschool curriculum by Oak Meadow. There are lots of joyful movements and sweet handplays in there. More recently, I have also been pulling from another Waldorf-inspired kindegarten homeschooling curriculum by Enki. I adapt the words to match the flora and fauna of southern California (“great stork” becomes “blue heron” and “wild lion” becomes “mountain lion”). And I have been known to look over a friend’s shoulder and learn a song or too from Waldorf homeschooling curriculum Live Education. (Mamas: these are three excellent Waldorf homeschooling curriculum programs.)

Earthroots just purchased a new songbook, which I discovered had (joy!) the music and lyrics to a number of songs that I have already been using (This is my Trunk, I’m a Tall, Tall Tree is the first song). I think I will be using many more of Mary Thienes Schunemann’s compiled and original songs in Sing a Song of Seasons. Even better, the book comes with a CD and every song is sung for you. She completed an entire series of songbooks before she passed away of cancer. I think we need This is the Way We Wash-a-Day also.

I use songs from Sing Through the Seasons for Martinamas every year.

There is a Waldorf homeschooling yahoo discussion board I follow (yahoo.com/group/waldorfhomeeducators/) and sometimes, Mrs. M, the moderator posts some, or the community members share. That’s where I first came across, My while horses walk peaceful and slow…

Of course I collect verses and movements somewhat randomly too. My neighbor taught me “The Noble Duke of York” (but since then I’ve found it my own resources too!) and I adapted it to be a marching movement, instead of a lap game for infants.

One that I haven’t gotten yet, but I will soon, is The Waldorf Poetry Book. It doesn’t have songs, but bits of poetry and verse to memorize. I like to start each circle with a short (or longer) seasonal verse. It’s on my wish list, both personally, and for Earthroots.

I’m sure there is a resource I have missed, but the advantage to writing cybernetically is that text can and does change and shift fluidly. I have many other resources that I have not mentioned here that are surely excellent, but have not needed to delve into them yet.

If you have the resources I’ve mentioned above, you will have more than enough material for teaching a weekly circle for a good long time.

Note to my forest kindergarten mamas: If you own any of these resources and have favorite songs and movements, please let me know!

 

 

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Christian with his New Friend

We spent today in downtown LA walking all over the place. The one gallery I wanted to see was far away, and we had to give skid row a wide berth, which added several blocks.

Christian played out back and apparently made friends with this painted woman at Cirrus Gallery.

Then we (Reanna, Christian, Chad and myself) headed into the garment district to meet Corrina and delightfully browse shop after shop of fabrics and notions. Well, Chad took one look at the crowded hustle and bustle of the garment district and headed up to LA library with Christian, hunting for good fountains along the way.

We looked at upholstery fabrics, cheap remains, fabric by the pound, lovely soft sheer linens, underwear elastic, and many other things I did not recognize, until our feet ached. Reanna did most of the spending, but I did buy a bag of pomegranate pips and another of watermelon spears from a street vendor for refreshment. Although next time, I will choose a fresh coconut instead (drink the milk and then have the flesh with salt and hot sauce – baja-style).

I will go back soon. And hope to hit the neighboring flower district too.

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C-Dog’s Puff

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